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Post by scaredycat on Dec 20, 2005 17:20:49 GMT 1
Hi everyone. Thanks for your responses. This is such a tough subject and I'm finding that I can think of nothing else at the moment. It's very reassuring though that I'm not the only one going through this. Maybe we should set up a nervous riders club?
I bought him from the field yesterday for a groom and rug change. He was fairly relaxed and not lurching all over the place like he used to do our last yard. I still haven't plucked up the courage to get on him yet - I feel really guilty about this. Stupid I know. I've got an equine massage therapist coming out to see him tomorrow in the hope that some nice relaxing massage will help expel any tension that he may have in his muscles. I noticed yesterday whilst grooming him that he dipped his back when I brushed him. He's not done it before.
I've spoken to his previous owners on a number of occasions, they have been quite helpful, although I haven't told them how much he's bashed my confidence as I feel embarrassed and don't want them to think they've made a mistake selling him to me. They have assured me that he was laid back, quiet but responsive and forward going to ride. They said he'd never bucked, stressed when ridden alone or left alone in the field, or napped. I don't think they would lie to me as they appear very genuine and concerned about him, but I suppose you never can tell.
There is so much help out there, its difficult to choose. I will certainly choose wisely lizzieb. Unfortunately, Christmas has left me a little short so I may have to wait until the new year to get an RA out.
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Post by plusrider on Dec 20, 2005 19:30:06 GMT 1
Hi again
please don't feel bad, if you ignored the problem you would have reason to beat yourself up, you haven't your doing your absolute best by him so please start to take some comfort in that fact.
I am completely sure there is a pain problem, I can't put my finger on what it is, I don't know you or the horse but if anyone told me this story then I would feel the same way.
NOW THEN, how about you!!! yes you, what about a nice massage session for you, you need to chill out a little too, it isn't all about your lad. Al the time your worrying, shall I sell, shall I keep, is he in pain, is it me blah blah blah, your tense, your worried and you will get yourself run down.
How about taking some time out for you? Ask the therapist if she can recommend someone to give you some massage too. Also I have a confident rider CD, if you want to borrow it just shout ;D Merry Christmas Tracy
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Post by Persianhorse on Dec 20, 2005 19:46:08 GMT 1
Your relationship with your horse is important,you must give him some quality time,he knows you are frightened that is the most bigger problem. First of all it is essential to establish a bond with your horse so that he cares whether he has pleased you or not. Establish trust. Give him rewards when he pleases you,the greatest reward of all is release of pressure. The bucking:put GOGGLES on him which the bottom half is closed and the upper half of eye is open this will overcome the bucking and rearing,but first of all establish trust. It is my pleasure to give more advise if needed. Wish you all the best.
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Post by rosieee on Dec 20, 2005 21:02:23 GMT 1
Hi, itr sounds to me as thoufgh op's horse hasn't (at the minute) got any real behavioural problems but just needs a confident, experienced rider which at the minute he hasn't got (correct me if i have got the wrong idea) it also sounds as though problems with the horse are being created and OP's confidence is being trashed. If this is the case it will be very difficult for OP to overcome these problems as it doesn't sound as though horse and rider are suited at all, no matter whether horse is proffessionally schooled, or an RA can help make the horse more settled etc. If i were in your shoes scaredey cat i would find your horse a really good new home, with a rider is suited to him and find yourself a horse who you are well matched to, as i think it would be for the best for both you and your horse. However this is just my personal opinion and should you decide that what you really want is too persevere with him then i wish you luck and i am sure with enough determination you will achieve results, it's just i am doubtful of the extent to which you and your horse's relationship improve. for example will you ever be able to compete together in the activities you used to do? and do you think he will ever bcome a horse that you can 'try new things with'? i'm sorry if i sound disencouraging, good luck with whatever you decide, i'm sure you will make a decision for the best of your horse and he is lucky to have found an owner who will take responsibility for his future, even if his future lies with different owners.
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Post by Persianhorse on Dec 20, 2005 23:13:31 GMT 1
Remove the bit put Hackamore on him. Establish trust. It is essential to establish a bond with your horse. He knows you are some how frightend,He knows everything much better than we do. I try to send you some information but There is somthing wrong with this page it dose not accept my message. Wish you the best.
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Post by Persianhorse on Dec 21, 2005 0:02:07 GMT 1
How is his napping?
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Post by mandal on Dec 22, 2005 21:59:43 GMT 1
Hi, I second all that plusrider said especially the bit about YOU taking time to relax etc.
Have a nice relaxing Christmas.
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