dcjovi
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Post by dcjovi on Aug 16, 2013 23:28:53 GMT 1
Hi vonny, any progress no matter how small is a step in the right direction! It can be frustrating when you take two steps forward and one back but its worth taking your time , confidence is a very fragile thing. x
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Post by portiabuzz on Aug 20, 2013 15:46:25 GMT 1
best of luck to you vonny, keep your chin up
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vonny
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Post by vonny on Aug 20, 2013 21:17:01 GMT 1
Am in a bit of a quandary. YO seems to think my pony is not right for me. YO rode her as I have said & was bucked off (was using spurs which pony is not used to) & last week only lunged her but she went well. I haven't ridden pony much due to various reasons (physical health, mine) & haven't had problems. My confidence is very low as you know. Hubby says pony is lovely & I should keep her & carry on getting used to her. I had thought of doing join up ( have done before with other ponies I have owned) & build up a good bond. Opinions welcomed
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Post by lesleyking1 on Aug 20, 2013 23:58:14 GMT 1
oh I've given up counting (and Caring) how many times I've been told Scarlet is not the horse for me. I'm happy, she's happy so who cares, I haven't the time in the day to get done all the things I want to do with her, so if we're not about to go off eventing does it matter. Why on earth did YO feel she needed spurs. When these Experts get their egos damaged they do tend to go down the road of there must be something wrong with something else, never them. Anyway, rant over, advice that comes to mind is; listen to them that are helpful, Kelly talks in her books about surrounding yourself with supportive people is great for confidence. How are you feeling about pony, is the bonding coming along. Hubby sounds a dream and very supportive.
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Post by portiabuzz on Aug 21, 2013 22:10:06 GMT 1
Ditto every word of the above !!! xx
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vonny
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Post by vonny on Aug 21, 2013 22:20:31 GMT 1
YO is a lovely kind person. She had left her spurs on from riding her previous dressage horse & it was not intentional. She has offered to help me if I wish to work with my pony & has made some useful suggestions including bonding exercises etc. she certainly does not have an ego. She is quite modest I am just pleased to have some support but in the end it is my decision. The bonding is going well so far. YO has a round pen so I can do join up etc I must admit my husband has always encouraged me to keep my pony especially when I feel like giving up & he is a wonderful support.
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Post by portiabuzz on Aug 21, 2013 22:22:09 GMT 1
Thats great you need support at home best of luck xx
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vonny
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Post by vonny on Aug 25, 2013 19:02:55 GMT 1
Must admit I have developed a bit of an attitude of 'she is my pony & I will do what I want with her'. Some people seem to think riding is the be all & end all. I got a few bemused looks at the yard today when asked if I was riding I replied that no I was doing some bonding & join up exercises, which I did as previously said, they are all big horses with mostly serious dressage riders lol. I have bucked the trend
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Post by portiabuzz on Aug 28, 2013 13:48:25 GMT 1
wonderful !!!! good on you xx
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Post by portiabuzz on Aug 28, 2013 13:50:42 GMT 1
i didnt ride casper for over a year (lami, feet damaged) and just cared for him while he was recovering, and i must say it made us very close and bonded. I just wanted him to be sound and happy and didnt rush back to the saddle when was given the all clear to ride last january x people thought i was mad but i love him and it was so worth it
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Post by laddiesmum on Aug 28, 2013 14:17:48 GMT 1
Hi yes people always think you have to ride. I found that when my boy was in horsey hospital and we spent such treasured time hand grazing, our bond grew massively. And now we are at home I am in no rush. I find the groundwork and just walking in hand so pleasurable and so when I do ride I find we are more relaxed together.
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vonny
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Post by vonny on Aug 28, 2013 15:04:55 GMT 1
That's great to hear that I am not the only one who doesn't rush to ride! I have been doing join up in the round lunging pen. Although my pony does join up with me she seems a little anxious. What else do you think I should be doing with her. I have Kelly's books but they are still unpacked in boxes somewhere & it's a while since I last did join up/ saw a demo
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Post by lesleyking1 on Aug 28, 2013 15:28:53 GMT 1
As long as YO is making you feel confident then her company will be great for you, I bet she takes her spurs off between rides now! Do read Kelly's books, especially the first one; Perfect manners, once explained in full, all what you're doing will make complete sense and you will look completely confident in the yard. I've been working out of the book since Christmas and in the last few weeks people are starting to ask questions because they see the difference in Madame.
Sounds like its all coming together! well done.
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Post by portiabuzz on Aug 28, 2013 16:41:21 GMT 1
well done all round then xx
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Post by laddiesmum on Aug 29, 2013 20:02:30 GMT 1
My boy was not trusting me to be in control and my RA showed me when leading to keep his attention to me at all times so when he looked away to gently bring his head back to me and to stand quietly without looking or raising his head and then to praise him. If he moved I was to block the movement quietly and gently. Everything very slowly. When I lead him I keep him at my shoulder, no lagging behind or ahead. The difference in his attitude is quite remarkable.
Also long lining.
Hope this helpsx
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