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Post by holi on Nov 12, 2006 13:36:15 GMT 1
So sorry Leanne. As a nurse I can only apologise for their behaviour - we are not all lacking in compassion. I only hope that your mother gained comfort from you all being there at the end.xxx
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Post by thistle on Nov 12, 2006 18:51:30 GMT 1
Leanne so sorry to hear that. As soon as you can bear it get in touch with the community health council and make a complaint so no one else suffers this way.
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Post by Leanne on Nov 12, 2006 19:26:24 GMT 1
Holi-you have no need to apologise.
I know you aren't all like that, the nurses and care my mum had in the intensive care unit were wondeful. They helped a lot. Sadly it was the other ward-I can't believe it-its as bad as losing her. She had no peace.
Thank you Thistle any adivce on how to go about it would be grateful as we won't be letting it drop.
Its getting more painful as now the shock is wearing off. There is nothing like losing a mum and realising she is not there anymore. The sound of her voice or or endless love.
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Post by Liz on Nov 13, 2006 1:06:55 GMT 1
Dear Leanne
I am so sorry to hear about your Mum, especially as I was just about to post to tell you I pulled through after being on life support in similar circumstances for about 10 days. I was told later that if I hadn't been so fit and strong, I would not have made it. The most upsetting thing for me afterwards was that I was totally, totally unaware of anything for 10 days.
What a wicked shame that your Mum had such a hard time in the ward but I am sure that she would have been very peaceful in the ITU and it is wonderful that her loved ones were with her when she died. I am quite certain your Mum was hugging you - I've felt similar in the past from my beloved twin sister. It's very comforting.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Liz x
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Post by ☺Smithy☺ on Nov 13, 2006 18:21:25 GMT 1
Truly sorry........sending you lots of hugs.
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Post by Leanne on Nov 14, 2006 13:01:36 GMT 1
Hi, I'm so glad Liz that you managed to pull through.
I don't know if my mum would have pulled through if the intection hadn't been so bad-I think maybe shwe would-she was fighting but it was a losing battle.
The nurses said they hd never seen so many organs affected-to much damage had been done. She was being supported for to many things. They had never seen it so bad.
She came through all of the operations-better than they thought.
But there was to much damge I think-its probably a miracle she lasted that long.
She looked after herself very well, was into healthy eating and went to the gym.
We just can't get our head around it. One week after the routine op and so much damage.
Esp as she wasso intent on being well and healthy.
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Post by Louise C on Nov 14, 2006 16:01:40 GMT 1
Leanne - my Mum died only a few months ago so know something of what you are going through - she spent a lot of the last year in and out of hospital with cancer treatment and the side affects of it - she just couldn't handle the side affects that well bless her.
I can also relate to what touchstone says - although I am not particularly a believer and didn't think I would feel like this, perhaps it's just that very personal link of having been a close daughter all these years.
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Post by sueabbery on Nov 14, 2006 16:52:34 GMT 1
Leanne I'm so sorry about your Mum (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))
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Post by Leanne on Nov 14, 2006 17:18:05 GMT 1
Hi thanks Louise and Sue.
I'm so sorry to hear about your mum Louise.
I can see what touchstone is saying, and in some cases i've had I can believe it. In some cases death is a release.
But I can't see it in this case, and tbh I'm struggling it, the way she went to me is some idiots mistake.
I can't see that it was her time, I'm accepting she is gone sort of, but I can't accept it-I'm just numb, simply empty.
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Post by fin on Nov 14, 2006 20:14:38 GMT 1
I wish there was something I could say that would help, but there isn't anything, is there?
I am sorry. I'll be thinking of you.
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Post by Leanne on Nov 14, 2006 22:49:25 GMT 1
Thanks Finn. I will be ok, it just takes time. I don't think you ever get over it, you just accept it.
I'm sorry everyone for all of this, I hope you don't mind.
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Post by sooz on Nov 15, 2006 4:15:17 GMT 1
Dear Leanne Honestly don't know what to say.
I'm sure you have a thousand and one emotions and thoughts running through your mind day and night. I smiled when you wrote that you feel your Mum around you, that is such a blessing.
You are in my thoughts
Sooz
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Post by Karon on Nov 15, 2006 15:05:19 GMT 1
So sorry Leanne, hugs for you. xxx
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Post by tl on Nov 15, 2006 16:07:14 GMT 1
Leanne I'm truly sorry to hear your news. Please don't let things that should be said remain unsaid. I for one am very tired of the lack of compassion now found amongst the 'caring' profession and when it comes to with holding pain relief, that is the very worst.
I am so sorry for your mother, and for you who will have to continue with this burden.
Big hugs Leanne.
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