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Post by gypsycob on Nov 11, 2006 8:22:40 GMT 1
oh leanne i am so sorry
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Post by boz on Nov 11, 2006 9:09:34 GMT 1
I really am so sorry. love to you and your family
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Post by boz on Nov 11, 2006 9:10:08 GMT 1
I really am so sorry. love to you and your family
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Post by jennyb on Nov 11, 2006 9:35:27 GMT 1
So sorry Leanne x
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Post by fiona on Nov 11, 2006 11:44:05 GMT 1
Leanne, I am so sorry to hear this. You and your family are in my thought and prayers.
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Post by VeronicaF on Nov 11, 2006 11:54:40 GMT 1
I am so very very sorry Leanne my heart and thoughts are with you all my love Veronica xxx
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Post by jen1 on Nov 11, 2006 11:59:19 GMT 1
im so sorry leanne, ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))) jen x
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Post by Louise C on Nov 11, 2006 12:41:45 GMT 1
Leanne - so very sorry to hear this ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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Post by stormhorse on Nov 11, 2006 12:47:04 GMT 1
so sorry to hear the news. thinking of all involved.
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Post by Jane on Nov 11, 2006 15:17:33 GMT 1
Such sad news. You're in my thoughts too. The tiniest consolation is that you could be there and that you have her precious last words to you. Take care.
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Post by Leanne on Nov 11, 2006 19:10:17 GMT 1
Hi thanks for all of that- the worst part was this could have been avoided.
In her last few days she was crying out for help as she was in so much pain, but the nurse ignored her and refused to get the doctor.
One reponse to my mother was Have you ever had children? The nurse refused to help my mother.
By the time my father intervened and they listened to her it was to late-to late. Infection had taken hold.
There was clear evidence of neglect and that is something I can't face yet. The fact that my mother needn't have died.
That is the worst part.
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Post by touchstone on Nov 11, 2006 21:20:36 GMT 1
Oh Leanne, that must be making it especially difficult for you.
I honestly believe that we go when the time is right, whatever the cause.
That is not to say however that you should just let things like neglect go; when you feel strong enough it may be worth making an official complaint.
Someone who is lacking in compassion should never be a nurse, although I know many of them have a very hard time of things, I have seen some neglectful treatment of patients, especially treating the elderly, which is heartbreaking.
Try not to dwell on those last moments too much though, she will be pain free now and wanting to comfort you all; I feel privileged to have communicated with people immediately after their passing, and I wish I could convey the sense of peace, love and liberation that they bring, it is truly a wonderful feeling.
I hope that am not speaking out of turn as I understand that not everybody shares my beliefs or experiences, but it gives you such a different perspective on death simply being a change of awareness, free from the limitations of the physical body. Stay strong, sending Love to you all xxx
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Post by heidi on Nov 12, 2006 0:55:41 GMT 1
So very sorry Leanne. I am thinking of you and your family.
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Post by VictoriaA on Nov 12, 2006 1:07:33 GMT 1
So sorry Leane I can't imagine what you must be going through. If you believe neglect is involved don't let it get swept under the carpet but also allow yourself time to grieve before starting this upsetting process.
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Post by Leanne on Nov 12, 2006 9:54:14 GMT 1
Hi thanks touchstone, I was a sort of believer that everything happens for a reason. Other loved ones who I lost I could accept as being their time.
But I am struggling with this. My OH said this and I am trying to believe it but I can't think of one reason.
She was looking forward to retirment with my Dad and moving down by the coast. She had so many things she was looking forward to and started achieving. Her life in some ways was just starting.
She was a great beleiver in what is meant to happen will happen-and I am holding on to that.
I have felt her around me-I don't know if I'm imagining it, but I felt wrapped in a massive hug.
Its comforting anyway-that is all I care about.
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