Persianhorse
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The picture is taken from a figure found carved on a bone 5000 years ago in ancient Persia.
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Post by Persianhorse on May 1, 2007 0:19:36 GMT 1
Dear all:
Horses have affection towards one and other and towards human but they don't have EGO.
Human has affection but has EGO.
We could try to make our desires requests rather than demands.
For those which have lack of confidence either in their horse or in themselves.
Horses are very affectionate but we have to give them a chance so they could show it to us.
As I said in my other thread we need to learn the body language of the horse in order to know them.
We have to know the horse language to understand their affection.
If we understand their affection then we will gain confidence too.
Our lack of confidence is because of our lack of understanding .
Imagine in a dance if we know our partner well we will have more confidence , this has both sides confidence in ourself and confidence in our partner.
This has the same rules in horses and our relations with them.
With regards and best wishes.
Hassan.
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Post by kya on May 1, 2007 8:33:49 GMT 1
I agree completely Persianhorse, and I think anger and bullying has no place around horses full stop. I make an effort to give my horse control sometimes... loosening the reins if he spooks and encouraging him forward just from the leg rather than tightening up. When I let him work it out with my help, rather than a slap of the whip or a roar, he never dissapoints.
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Post by Casper on May 1, 2007 9:57:22 GMT 1
I have a fantastic relationship on the ground with my horses. It is my riding nerves which affect things in the saddle. When I am a confident calm leader, guess what, Bobby is calm and relaxed. When I stress, he does. And on the ground I really can dance with my horses - Bobby more so than Clover, but that is because I can ride her without nerves or anything. Tom Widdicombe has a lovely expression - "just be with your horse". And moments like that are truly memorable and lovely.
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Post by ktk on May 1, 2007 15:35:28 GMT 1
I do agree with alot of what you have said. You make some very good points.
Ego: "A persons sense of self esteem or self importance"
Self esteem: "Confidence in ones one worth or abilities; self respect"
Horses have an ego, well atleast mine do to a certain extent. Most people do too. Its not necessarily a bad thing so long as its not in a very "I am the best at everything I do, you will all do as I tell you as I KNOW BEST" sort of way. It is a good thing to have self respect, to have confidence in your abilities so long as its not totally misplaced.
My horses know when they have done something right, sometimes its when I tell them that they have, othertimes they just know. When my Ebony walked up a big set of steps for the first time he knew what he had done was fantastic and acted like it too! A horse with a most definate ego.
Everyone knows the feeling of having a great riding/groundwork/other session and both horse and rider are made up, proud of themselves, proud of each other.. Ego?
"Our lack of confidence is because of our lack of understanding"- That comment is completly wrong in the majority of cases.
I have a lovely relationship with my horses. I trust them as much as I think its safe to. My Baileyhorse (the one I had the bad fall off of) has me well trained and it comes across that he trusts me. Just after my fall I was out sunbathing in the boys field, I woke up Bailey is flat out beside me and the other two are within about 20yards or so. At this point I wasnt willing to get on him, had no confidence in him while ridden but we were best mates on the ground.
My horses have chosen to trust me, otherwise they wouldnt do half the things they do, or that they allow me to do. Every relationship, be it human or horsey, can be improved and built on. You can love your horse with all your heart, you can have the most fantastic relationship, but you can still be terrified of jumping because of a horrible accident years ago that could have been on a totally different horse and completly out of your control. In which case, its got nothing to do affection, understanding and ego.
*Modified to correct some of my shocking spelling*
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Post by wozzer on May 1, 2007 22:01:13 GMT 1
My riding horse, Lincoln, is very affectionate. He will put his nose into my hands and let me kiss his nose for, what seems like, hours on end ;D
He also will go where I want him to and trust me, even when I know he is scared ;D
However, Warrior (also known as Wozzer) my 2 year old, definitely has an attitude, or an ego. He just does what he wants, when he wants LOL!!!! (I know, I know, he's only a baby ;D). xx
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