alfie going away for a while

[alfie]

Feeling better but not up to riding yet so alfie is off to Leah's for a week or so. Its not really a sad thing i suppose and she will do loads of work with him and hopefully the time without him to do will help get me back on track again.
just feel really defeated, he is havng lesson in a while and i was hoping to ride but i had to go to town this morning and i'm knackered now.
i've sold some hay and am selling a saddle to fund his holiday/work out. i'll come on again later for a chat.better get him ready

[Casper]

Sometimes Alfie seeing other people riding your horse is a good thing, as you can see how things look from the ground, rather than being on top. Last year when Bobby was a real spook monster (my fault, not his BTW) I used to take him for lessons at a local riding school. I ALWAYS rode him first, otherwise I would have used every excuse not to ride, but then the instructor would ride him. And I got to see that he actually wasn't bad at all, he just needed a confident rider.

I bet by the time he comes back, you will be itching to have a sit on him! And if you get on walk three paces and get off, well done you. Don't set unrealistic targets, just enjoy being with him and on him.

Look forward to catching up with you more later on Alfie.

[em&ed]

Echo Casper - to see someone else riding my horse gave me confidence because he didn't explode or do anything silly that was going to hurt anyone.... then on the occasion that he was a bit silly, the rider was unfazed and nothing bad happened - which also showed me that he's not actually a monster... It will be for the best

[alfie]

cheers, sorry didn't really explain my self . im not very well AGAIN . doc's seemed to have ruled out ms are looking into ME and my 'alternative lady' thinks its nerve damage in my spine due to a dodgy epidural i had. but it is connected to my confidence because i am not ready to trust us if i'm not strong enough to deal with his little 'spats'.
so hoping the time with leah will help his head to mature a little, keep his fitness up for our ride in june and give me a chance to regroup and get on board again.
I thought i may be able to ride some of his lesson today but just concentrating on them going round has been enough. off to have a lay down for a bit. great , 34 and knackered .good job i'm not a neddy i'd have been sent to potters by now.

[kya]

Alfie, are you looking after children, or was the epidural for something else? My child exhausts me, although she's my life. I had a friend with ME, and there is light at the end of the tunnel. You need to put yourself first, and take any pressure off, including riding worries etc. All the very best.

[angblue]

So sorry to hear you're not so good, hope you get an explanation & a way forward soon
I'm sure alfie will be fine on his holiday & when he gets back you can both move forward together ;D

[wozzer]

Oh alfie, sorry to hear this. You'll have to come for a virtual hack on here with us. xx

[alfie]

cheers, reading my threads makes me sound very sorry for my self. I'm not, honest just get a little dispondent when i'm not so good, cos i have so many things to do . two kids 10 and 7. (who are brilliant ). busy has just come back from being started so he is doing a little something every day , trying to keep alfie fit for our ride in june. and we have to move out in a couple weeks tme as the builders are coming in to gut our house, so we are going to my mums. . . richie racing MX tomorrow and yeay i have to marshall , so as we are all going i refuse to pay for burgers etc so will be cooking this evening.
\\sat here smiling at the prospect of my 'chilled weekend'my mother in law gave me her old kenwood chef so i can do everything in that and bung it in the oven, sooooooooooo easy.
anyway.
alfie was a great boy in his lesson yesterday, and I am hoping to at least sit on him on monday. and he is off on wednesday, leah is going to take him to bodmin moor and round the forestries. and do a bit in the fields. we have a little girl coming to try neddy later today as he is without a jockey for the next year untill he goes to my brothers. he will stay here and they can come and use him so not to traumatic.
just feels so odd having jess grow out of him, seems just 5 mins ago that she was 3 and tottering around the yard on him, now a very strict 7 yr old, who's ground work is much sharper than mine. , she has the pacience of a saint , lots of confidence and seems to have bonded with busy so well. sorry i'll stop in a minute but just want to tell you this , as i am so proud of her.
we took him out for a ride the other day and about 1/2 mile from home she wanted to get off and lead him because she said he was tired, when asked by a neighbour if everything was ok she said that he was only a baby and needed a rest ;D so so proud. when we got home she untacked him and said she wanted to do some ground work with him, ;D she does listen.
and i thought she would do as she does with neddy and lead him round in circles singing twinkle twinkle to him, BUT
she would not let him put a nose past her shoulder and if he didn't stop when she stopped she backed him up . could not believe it, when she finished that pony would not leave her, and only pottered off down the field when we went away, he even neigh's at her when we come up the lane from school.
its so funny, she gave her friend a right lecture yesterday before she let her see him, no running or waving your arms at him, he'll think you don't like him and make sure he stays out of your space, he's only young and has to learn his manners . think i may be waffling on to much

[ajb]

Alfie don't knock yourself - crikey I couldnt cope with kids and a horse - hence I have 2 horses and no kids! Sometimes it all gets too much and if you are not too well yourself no wonder! I am at that "funny" age, ie menopausal! Somedays it is all I can do to get out of bed - I just feel absolutely knackered!! I ache, my body thermostat is absolutely knackered, Im bad tempered, tearful and grouchy! I cant take HRT (other issues involved here). However other days I feel I could move a mountain! Im lucky in that I only work p/t so if I can the days I feel like death I just try not to do too much - I do all the normal things, get-up, do yard, work (if it is a work-day) but I am also nice to myself and if necessary go to bed!! I know I am really lucky but if your body aint right if you ride you are on a road to disaster IMHO!! Look after yourself!!

[alfie]

Well, he's off today. i am so close to tears its unreal . only because its the 1st time he has ever done anything like this , its kind of like sending the kids on their 1st sleep over.
he will have a great time, and learn lots and i will have a week to get my self together. looking forward to getting him back all ready.
kind of envious as well that he will be doing all hese lovely things without me. hope your all having a good riding week ;D

[Casper]

Awww, don't worry Alfie, a week will fly by you just wait and see. And just think of all the fun the two of you are going to have through the summer. The weather is improving, light nights are here etc etc. The two of you will have a ball! x