not happy at all just got back of hol to bad news

[thelwell]

hi there just been on hol over the weekend and got back ponys cared for to a tee but just been given some bad news nearly 4 years ago i moved yards to having majore problems of a livery on that yard so me and my mate moved to a better yard well yesterday i got back to be told that this livery is moving on to the yard where my horses are. the yard owner has told me not to worry but why should i go throu anything like that again she causes truble takes your horse out with out saying things or even asking permison to ride them helps herself to your hay and grooming kits and feed. Well what it boils down to do i move my 3 or do i grin and bere it i think if the yard owner is taking her on knowing that there is 2 very uneasy liverys then i dont think shes to botherd if trouble starts

[big e]

:-/i think you have to give the new livery owner a chance and see how it goes. Can you put a padlock and chain on the gat/stable to astop her taking your horses out?

[thelwell]

hi there its was the livery that was giving me the probs im now looking for a new yard im not going to take the chance on it i kno they say people change but im affried to say i cant belive she has so if you hear of any yards let me kno or pm me im 3 miles of the m1 junction 27

[maislow]

Personally I'd have a chat with woman when she comes onto yard & lay down the law regarding your stuff & the see how it goes. However I would look around for somewhere else too

[specialsparkle3]

You are in a strong position because you were there first, and you have warned the Y O of your previous problems ( i asume you gave her a detailed account of the sort of things she got up to?) Therefore, if she starts any of her old tricks, AND YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY SURE IT'S HER you can go straight to the Y.O and tell her , but be careful NOT to speak to the livery first and prepare her, enabling her to make up her own version of the event in question. Don't worry, it will be ok if you keep your cool. Meanwhile try not to be unfriendly to her so the Y O can't think you are over reacting because you dislike her. Good luck

[kas]

Blimey yes! You say she takes your horses out and rides them without permission? I can't think of any YO I know that would allow that for a start. You could move and end up in a worse mess, I think you should wait and see.

[Lydia00]

Just remember to bare in mind whats best for your horses. Are they settled and happy where they are? Surely if they are then you could try and sort something out and wait and see what happens. Get locks for your belongings (i have even though i haven't had any trouble, i just have them for safety) and have a chat with his livery. If nothing improves, tell you YO that its not fair to have two uneasy liveries and one who's causing all this. And the fact that you were on the yard first. Hope you get somehting sorted out.

[serenity]

I don't think I'd move yet if I was otherwise happy. I would keep everything I could at home & put locks on the rest so it can't be "borrowed".

I would also make it very clear to the YO that my horse was not to be borrowed by anyone for any reason & say that I would tell her myself if anyone else was going to do anything with him. I would also make sure everyone on the yard knew this & ask them to contact me & the YO if they saw anyone with my horse.

[lilaclomax]

Can you write out a list of things that you want / don't want from the other liveries and give it to the YO explaining your concerns, say that you are grateful for all her help to date but that you are worried about this new livery... you never know, your YO may kick out the new livery at the first sign of trouble to prevent any others from leaving, my YO would and she has once given a week's notice to someone who wouldn't pull their weight and was back stabbing!
Good luck, it is horrible when forced to move especially if your horses are settled.

[MirandaSophie]

Criky, she rides other horses?

Jesus.that's completely awful! I would go spare at the thought!

Can you take your tack home?

I agree, if your horses are happy where they are, then wait and see how it goes. Defin explain to the YO that if anyone else is going to ride your horses then you will tell ehr personally.

Also, if your hay and things start goign walkabouts, then make a list for a while.

If you are positive that ti si this person, then you can take further action. That way you havea dated and precise record and it will go in your favour.

Chin up.

xx

[Casper]

If you can't take your tack home Thelwell get one of the locking saddle racks. They are great for security anyway, plus nobody can then decide to "borrow" your saddle and your horse. Can't quite get my head around how the hell someone would be so bald faced as to do something like that. I wouldn't dare just tack up my friend's horse and go for a ride without telling her - even though she has always said that I can feel free to do that at any time if I fancy a ride on her schoolmistress.

As someone above said you are in a stronger position as you are already in situ. If you also have three horses yourself, plus your friend has at least one horse, your YO would have to be stupid to risk four liveries leaving because of one new horse coming to the yard. You need to have a heart to heart with your YO. Keep your options open about moving yards, but if you and your horses are settled there I would do this as a last option. Good luck, hope everything works out okay for you

[thelwell]

hi there they came to the yard today to look around and yes its def her the yard owner has assured me she will sort things out if anything happens bt i still feal very un easy about it fall i can do is see what happens but i kno im still looking around one of my ponies is on loan and im going to tell her to take her tack home with her i have been told if she starts or causes any probs i cant say anything but only go to the yard owner but i kno in my own mind it wont make it up to the yard owner

[specialsparkle3]

Thelwell---- you are obviously quite young reading your last post, but as I already said YOU HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT --- the Y.O. is on your side ---you have said so ---so now , take advantage of this, do not blow it by being agressive to the new girl. and if something happens, as i said before DO NOT APPROACH HER YOURSELF no matter how angry you are, tell the yard owner. I know it's hard, but believe me, if you control yourself and you know you are in the right you will win , and it's HER who will loose. Why is she leaving her present yard, have they ha d enough of her?? Cheer up , It will not happen if you stay cool.
I'm not being rude by saying you sound young ----I mean you may feel a little insecure because of your age, but you don't need to. ;D

[sobagirl]

I would say stay put as well. Keep calm, wait for her to put herself in trouble, don't do anything that can be construed as nasty or over reactive. If she does take your ponies out, is it possible to catch her at it, and inform the Y O that you will report the new yardie to the police for theft? That's what it is after all!

[thelwell]

hey one thing made me giggle im nearly 30 lol just want a easy life