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Post by chatterbox on Dec 28, 2006 19:47:41 GMT 1
Please dont slate me as i feel bad enough. Have tried to be brave and not worry when Jack sets off with me but he has done it three times this week now. Today went for a good 2 hour hack mostly trot and some canter lazy on the way out but as soon as we started for home he just got more forward which was fine until without anywarning again he took off in canter and this time took me a bit longer to pull him up. He has done this on odd occasions nearly from the off set but didnt worry too much as change of routine etc. He is on no feed at all now and worked 6 days a week but i cant go on like this my confidence has again been knocked. He was sold to me as a safe sensible hack 100% in all ways. I always ride with a very experienced friend and we keep the ride as quiet as poss. Its bad enough having to sell him but i paid a fair bit for him and wont get it back. I have had his back teeth done and saddle fitted. I have just moved to a new yard too and feel a right idiot infront of everyone. I was put down so much at my last yard. But the guys on the new yard have been great but i bet they think maybe i shouldnt get another horse as in useless. I feel so stupid and gutless as other people wouldnt be bothered by his beaviour. Maybe i should call it a day but i love horses and riding so much. My friend is going to hack him out until i find the right home for him and i will just ride in the school. Hes a lovley natured horse and i want to do right by him but i just havnt the confidence to put up with this every ride.
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Post by Hannah on Dec 28, 2006 19:51:47 GMT 1
Where are you? Have you had an RA/instructor out to see if they can help?
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Post by rhillahorse on Dec 28, 2006 19:53:22 GMT 1
No body will slate you chatterbox. You've been through some tough times this year. Maybe he's not the right one for you. But don't give up horses.
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Post by greyhorses on Dec 28, 2006 19:54:41 GMT 1
Chatterbox, I'm so sorry to hear this, you must be very upset to have made this decision. Sorry but I've not fully read your other thread but is there nothing that can be done - perhaps getting an RA out? Does he bolt with your friend on board? Perhaps you can loan him out for a period to give you a break and a fresh start when he comes back to you?
I think I remember seeing a bombproof mare on the For Sale section - perhaps she may be suitable to get your confidence back.
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Post by chatterbox on Dec 28, 2006 19:55:30 GMT 1
Hannah im in lincolnshire i have a very good instructor who is going to ride him for me but as she has hacked out with me when he has done this she feels i would be better to get an older schoolmaster type horse. She feels jack is very green for his 8 years and would benefit from a stronger more experienced rider.
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Post by jen1 on Dec 28, 2006 19:55:38 GMT 1
isnt it better with the devil you know?, i respect your desision, but i wonder if it would be worth getting an ra out to him as a last ditch attempt,either to keep him, or ensure he gets a good home, horses like him rarly get treated with respect,in new places, sorry im not pouring salt, on , i often dream od selling my horse and buying something like a point and shoot eventer, ive been going with barney for 5 years in total, anyway, dont feel stupid, take care jen x
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Post by julz on Dec 28, 2006 20:01:39 GMT 1
Chatterbox, I think you are doing the right thing, both for you and for Jack.... You can't keep going on rides like these, and Jack can't keep going the way he is, you may end up not being able to stop him at some point and have an accident which im sure, no-body wants for you.
Look around, don't rush, but do get yourself a reliable schoolmaster, even if it's a loan until you feel ready to get a younger but safer horse for long-term ownership.
Good Luck!
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Post by chatterbox on Dec 28, 2006 20:02:58 GMT 1
Im quite happy to ride horses that are forward going but im very frightened of being run away with or rearing horses. I can cope with anything else. I dont want a plod i just wan something that i can have a good canter on without it getting too silly. When jack goes i dont panic just stay calm sit up and pull him up but it doesnt make for an enjoyable hack. If he only did it now and again thats fine but its becomming a habit. Ive ridden lots of other horses and they dont react like this im not heavy with my hands and have quite good balance i tried him in a waterford bit but went back to the snaffle as i find he goes fine in it and isnt particually strong just leans sometimes but seem to have sorted that. I think i would like and ID x TB type about 12 thats been there and done it as i would love to compete at local level as well as enjoy long hacks
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Post by Hannah on Dec 28, 2006 20:06:49 GMT 1
Sorry I haven't followed your story, so wasn't sure if you had any help with him. What exactly does he do?
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Post by kya on Dec 28, 2006 20:10:21 GMT 1
Sounds like you know in your heart and head the relationship is over. Do what is right for you and you will find the right horse.
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Post by chatterbox on Dec 28, 2006 20:18:30 GMT 1
Hannah i traced jacks previous owner as the one i bought him from had only had him three months. She said not to feed jack at all as he can get a bit above himself so i havnt only a little chaff. He has on occasion just taken off for no reason but nothing drastic. But his week has gone into a new paddock which is an acre to himself of brand new pasture and since then has gone from being lazy to forward going which is fine as i prefer that. But for no reason he just takes of i had him on the bit and was right next to my friend doing a slow controlled trot and he just launches and goes. It doesnt matter wether he is walking cantering or trotting theres no warning as such he doesnt seem to get fizzy its like something has hit him on the bum and off he goes
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Post by katefox1812 on Dec 28, 2006 20:21:26 GMT 1
Why would anyone slate you chatterbox? You have done nothing wrong, and it sounds to me as though you are being very sensible about this. Riding and having a horse is supposed to be FUN, for heaven's sake, and if you are no longer enjoying this horse and are frightened every time you go out, it makes sense to re-consider.
If you really have decided to sell Jack, then I suggest you cheer yourself up by looking through all the sales websites/magazines for a suitable horse to replace him. Please don't give up! Just because you don't totally 'click' with one horse does not mean you are 'useless' or that you should give up riding.
And there's no reason why you should not get back what you paid for Jack - or at least somewhere near the same amount - he will be the perfect horse for somebody, just as you will find the perfect horse for you.
There might even be someone on here who would love Jack - can you tell us a bit more about him?
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Post by chatterbox on Dec 28, 2006 20:26:29 GMT 1
katefox thankyou. Jack is 15.3 mw gelding 8 years a true gent in every way appart from that one thing. The best horse ive ever had the pleasure to handle. I paid 4000 for him 6 months ago. But good home would be of most importance
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Post by naria on Dec 28, 2006 21:08:57 GMT 1
Chatterbox I think you're doing the right thing. If you've lost confidence in him then it's better that he's sold before you stop wanting to ride completely & with someone else he may be a different horse (that's not criticising you!).
I hope you sell him quickly to a nice home & find a horse you're happier with.
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Post by sarak on Dec 28, 2006 21:15:04 GMT 1
Sorry to hear you are going through a tough time chatterbox. It's a really hard decision to make I can empathise, because my confidence is taking a bit of a battering at the moment with a horse I have on loan. I had to retire my TB earlier this year through injury, and miss riding him terribly still. Although he was nowhere near my perfect horse, we had a real bond after 6 years and I trusted him despite his faults.
I hope you don't give up, but know how you feel as I am on the verge of thinking it will be easier just to jack everythinig in rather than to struggle on and feel as if I am getting nowhere. I am beginning to think that there is no such thing as a straightforward horse, and my confidence isn't what it used to be. And I heard this morning that my current instructor is giving up teaching in my area - which was a huge blow, as she was such a rock.
Sorry to moan on your thread. I have to say that I would feel the same as you - it must be awful feeling out of control if you just get carted off at the drop of a hat like that.
Chin up. I hope you can sell him quite quickly and find a horse that gives you back some of your confidence. Good luck, and let us know how you get on.
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