i miss

[solo]

i miss:

my old life
my parents being together
family christmases
horses(my heart breaks without them)
friends
people to talk to
having no cares
having no worries
my mum being near me
my dad being my dad
the old times
liking myself
feeling pretty

[solo]

feeling happy
having fun
laughing
being debt free
the smell of a yard
freedom

[naria]

Solo what's the matter? You can talk to people on here, we do care.

[bloke3]

fix what you can... and try not to worry about the rest :-)

[LisaM]

Bloke 3;
That's soooooo my oh's philosophy on life.. If only it was that easy. I'm guessin that Solo is a woman and we don't see things quite as black or white as you men. There's always multi colours in between!
Solo, try to elaborate and we will try and support you x

[bloke3]

Well, I did say "try" not to worry :-)! As a worrier myself, I know well that it does no good...

Solo, I've just noticed the time stamps on your entries; the wee small hours. Things seem worst then, so I hope it all looks much better on such a lovely day as today.

[lovelylace]

life is never as bad as it seems, loads of people here is very supportive and helpful, try to talk to us!!

[milo]

i miss my dad too,but he died 13 yrs ago, make the most of what youve got,live for today and dont think of what you havent got, think of what you do have and enjoy it .i had to get help for depression 3 yrs ago theres nothing wrong in asking for help,infact asking for help is the first step to getting better,best of luck.

[solo]

focusing on the good is all ok if you have good to focus on.

ever wish you could go back in time to when you were actually happy? i do.

havn't been happy in so long i hardly remember what its like.

im all alone here always am.

[speedy]

You're not alone - we're all here with you.

And yes I've often wished I could go back in time, but things happen for a reason, and when one door closes another opens (although it can seem like it takes a long time to open!!)

Is there anything we can help you with? Lots of people offer some very good advice on here xx

[perky]

Hi Solo
Your not alone, as you can see by all the messages on here their are plenty of people whom care and with more information maybe we could help some more...
Where do you live? you can always put a thread on here for a horse/pony to ride or offer help in a yard im sure you wil get plenty of response always people wanting help.
You could join a gym, exercise is great for the naturally happy pills (endorphins) excuse my spelling plus you'll meet new people.
Sorry dont want to sound like im preaching, but with not much info hard to know what else to say.
I do know what you mean though their have been several times in my life when i wish I could go back, but your life can change in an instant it is what you make it.
I have been thru some really tough times and thought things cant possibly get worse, but sometimes they do before they can get better .
Stick in their and try look on the brighter side of things.
x

[naria]

Surely there is something good that you can focus on, even if it's only that it's a lovely sunny day today? The problem with looking back is you miss what's around you now & maybe don't realise what you do have.

Would it help you to see a doctor & maybe get counselling &/or medication to help you through this?

Perky's idea of offering to help someone with horses is a good one if you miss them. Even if you don't have transport you may find someone who'd be willing to give you lifts in exchange for some help.

If you have debt problems contact Citizens Advice as they should be able to put you in touch with someone who can help (not dodgy refinancing companies).

If you are lonely try to go out & meet people. There's lots of ways to do that - look for a part-time bar job at a local pub, take an evening class, offer to do the gardening or something for an old or disabled person are just a few ideas.

Take care & please keep posting here.

[noor]

Hi Solo,
Not sure if I'm allowed to post email addresses on here (so feel free to edit mods) but if you're looking for someone to have a chat with, just someone to lend an ear then you can email me. [e-mail] . I'd be happy to talk with you.

Take care.

[K]

Hi Solo

I might not be the best person to cheer someone up right now, but I thought I'd pipe up anyway!

Things WILL get better. I spent almost a full hour this morning sat at my desk sobbing away, to the point I almost made myself sick. I feel better now, not great, but I just keep telling myself if will get better. And I believe it. I know it's a cliche, but the only constant in life is change.


In particular, let people know where you are - I for one would be happy to provide horse company for someone in my area - would be very nice in fact! Can't do rides, he's only 3, but if you miss the smell of the yard that could be arranged!

If you're not in my area, I'm certain there are other people who feel the same as I do - just let us know where you are.

Mostly, take care of yourself. You sound like an intelligent person, and you just have to hang in there and wait for it to improve. Some things will change on their own, and some will need you to push them/take opportunities. You will know yourself when you're ready to do that - just make sure you do when you are. The bar job idea is great - I always loved that, and it's extra money, you're not sat at home unhappy, and you'll meet new people.

Big hug.

[K]

Just upping this - Solo, how are you feeling today?
x