I'm probably over-reacting but.....

[scaredycat]

My sharer (who's been with me just over a month) informed me yesterday that she was going to look at a horse for sale. She asked if I would mind her keeping it with my horse - I don't mind at all, but its not my decision as I don't own the field. Told her tha she'd have to speak to the YO.

I was excited for her (we've become fairly good friends since meeting) and my parting words to her were 'Good luck, let me know what he's like.'

Anyway, I got a message from my other friend, who also keeps her horse at the same yard telling, me that my sharer had bought the horse and had asked her for the YO's number.

My sharer has still not contacted me to tell me that she's bought this horse. I'm feeling rather hurt and put out that she can't even send me a text telling me that she'll no longer be sharing my horse as she's definitely bought her own. I'm not scary, I was really happy for her when she said she wanted to buy her own. I just feel that its polite to let me know? I sent her a message last night asking how she got on, got a reply saying 'battery's dying'. Do you think I'm over-reacting?

[Yann]

Not really, common courtesy does seem to be in short supply with a lot of horse people, hopefully they save it all for their horses

[gilly]

Dunno- it does seem a bit strange that she hasn't told you herself yet. Maybe she's a bit worried that she might have hurt your feelings by giving up your horse so early in the agreement? Or maybe she's worried you might be angry with her?
When is she bringing the horse to the yard?
I think I would feel the same as you though. It's only fair, and polite, to let you know as soon as possible that she is ending the share agreement.

[kas]

Be open about it. txt her saying "I hear you've found a horse - how exciting - tell me all!" and see what happens.

[scaredycat]

Thats what I did last night. I sent her a message asking how she got on, said I was really excited and couldn't wait to hear all about it. The message about the dying battery was all I got back. I'm not worried about the fact that she's ending the agreement after only a short amount of time. I even offered to help her out should she need it. I just thought that she'd at least tell me rather than me hear from a third party.

[lilaclomax]

Sounds like she is scared of telling you! If she had chance to msg back that her battery was dying then she had enough time to text... went well, will call later.
I would not worry too much about it, she will be asking you lots of questions soon enough!!!

[julia]

Maybe it's not finalised yet and she's afraid to tempt fate by telling you she's bought a horse. Is she going to have it vetted?

We were looking for a horse back in the summer and we found the perfect one and agreed to buy it subject to vetting. My daughter was so excited she told all her friends she's bought a horse - then it failed the vetting and everything fell flat. When we found another one, she didn't want to tell anyone until we had the result of the vetting and knew we'd definitely got a horse!

[scaredycat]

Could be that it hasn't be finalised - but from what my other friend was saying, she's paid for the horse, has arranged transport, has spoken to the vet that we use to get a vetting done, has told a number of other people on the yard that this horse is coming. I believe he's arriving this weekend.

[Su]

I would be feeling hurt if I were you! Perhaps she is waiting to see you in person to tell you.