Post by annoymouse on Nov 21, 2013 21:21:34 GMT 1
Hi
Sorry I haven't been around to reply. Thanks so much for the lovely messages of support, sometimes I just feel so alone and that there is no way out.
Just to start with what michellep said about reporting someone when they threaten you like the guy from uni did to me. A few days after I got that text a girl got raped at the uni so I rang crimestoppers straight away and told them about the threat I had. The police came to see me and I gave them my phone and they visited the guy in question. It turned out not to be him but they gave him a good talking to about the threat. He made out a mate did it but I think it scared him enough to stop being such an idiot. I then got in trouble with my parents for not telling them what happened and didn't get spoken to for 2 weeks. So I suppose there is a silver lining to everything.
Things got a bit better after my last post. A day or so later she suddenly started talking to me again and things were ok. Then last night I forgot to wash up before I went to bed, remember in the morning but was running late so said I'd do it when I got home. So when I got home I got it in both barrels as ' I know how she doesn't like having washing up left in the sink' and it shows how I disrespect her. Then I got loads of ranting about my Dad being rubbish and his family hating her, then about me having a pile of letters I hadn't opened. I tend to know what is going on with my bank and debts from the cash machine and I speak to the credit cards I have monthly to make my payments so don't really need to open all the letters straight away. I know whats going on with them. But according to my mother I am burying my head in the sand and I'm 'ill'. She said shes the only person that does anything, doesn't matter that I'm out at work all day, then to the horses, then working on the computer all night, I still do nothing. I got all about how no one appreciates her and that shes been the best mother we could have ever wanted. She then ranted on about my Dads family hating her and that she doesn't stoop to their level etc. Basically rubbished me for everything, said I tell people she has favourite children(?!?) and then said to me am I going to pull my weight for Christmas as she has to do everything. She also brought up something I said months ago when my gran came over, I don't drink tea or coffee so when I was asked to make people a drink I said as I don't drink it myself it might be a bit rubbish as I don't know what tastes nice and was it better for someone else to make it. To this she went in and made the drinks and when they went nuts at me. She said its because I'm lazy and don't want to help and make her do everything. To me, I've been told I make crap drinks by people before, and I'd have thought someone who drinks the stuff will make it better then me. I don't know if that makes sense to anyone else but maybe it is just me that's mad. I really am not sure anymore.Writing this I am totally aware of how pathetic all this sounds, its what frustrates me so much. How can something so small about not washing up, or saying I don't really know how to make good coffee and tea spiral into this?! Its just so pathetic. I just want a nice life and not to be harassed.
She then asked me what my feelings were and I just can't see the point in even speaking. I said what is the point in me having an opinion about anything, everything I do is wrong. She started ranting again so I've walked out and am sat in my room. I'm crying but it isn't coz of what she says anymore, it because I'm so frustrated by the situation I am in. I feel pathetic and a total looser. My family control my life and as I have no money to get away I put up with it. I've been saving up to pay one of my debts off and finally got it paid last week. I've got about £2500 left to pay on 2 credit cards. All this from my days at uni and depression. If I hadn't been so stupid I might have been able to escape. I have two horses whom I would give my life for and where I have them is low rent and they are happy. So they need to stay where they are. I'm tied because of them but wouldn't give them up for the world. I know if I didn't have them I would have killed myself years ago when my depression was at its worst. If I had money I could do something about it. I keep thinking about getting a new job, anything that pays better. but then the guilt comes in about leaving my Dad, he takes far too much on and couldn't cope without me. I'm sure in a few days I'll be ok and things will be ok, and then a few days after that I'll be back in my room crying as its kicked off again. I feel totally worthless. So sorry to be like this and expect people to read it, I've just no where to turn
Sorry I haven't been around to reply. Thanks so much for the lovely messages of support, sometimes I just feel so alone and that there is no way out.
Just to start with what michellep said about reporting someone when they threaten you like the guy from uni did to me. A few days after I got that text a girl got raped at the uni so I rang crimestoppers straight away and told them about the threat I had. The police came to see me and I gave them my phone and they visited the guy in question. It turned out not to be him but they gave him a good talking to about the threat. He made out a mate did it but I think it scared him enough to stop being such an idiot. I then got in trouble with my parents for not telling them what happened and didn't get spoken to for 2 weeks. So I suppose there is a silver lining to everything.
Things got a bit better after my last post. A day or so later she suddenly started talking to me again and things were ok. Then last night I forgot to wash up before I went to bed, remember in the morning but was running late so said I'd do it when I got home. So when I got home I got it in both barrels as ' I know how she doesn't like having washing up left in the sink' and it shows how I disrespect her. Then I got loads of ranting about my Dad being rubbish and his family hating her, then about me having a pile of letters I hadn't opened. I tend to know what is going on with my bank and debts from the cash machine and I speak to the credit cards I have monthly to make my payments so don't really need to open all the letters straight away. I know whats going on with them. But according to my mother I am burying my head in the sand and I'm 'ill'. She said shes the only person that does anything, doesn't matter that I'm out at work all day, then to the horses, then working on the computer all night, I still do nothing. I got all about how no one appreciates her and that shes been the best mother we could have ever wanted. She then ranted on about my Dads family hating her and that she doesn't stoop to their level etc. Basically rubbished me for everything, said I tell people she has favourite children(?!?) and then said to me am I going to pull my weight for Christmas as she has to do everything. She also brought up something I said months ago when my gran came over, I don't drink tea or coffee so when I was asked to make people a drink I said as I don't drink it myself it might be a bit rubbish as I don't know what tastes nice and was it better for someone else to make it. To this she went in and made the drinks and when they went nuts at me. She said its because I'm lazy and don't want to help and make her do everything. To me, I've been told I make crap drinks by people before, and I'd have thought someone who drinks the stuff will make it better then me. I don't know if that makes sense to anyone else but maybe it is just me that's mad. I really am not sure anymore.Writing this I am totally aware of how pathetic all this sounds, its what frustrates me so much. How can something so small about not washing up, or saying I don't really know how to make good coffee and tea spiral into this?! Its just so pathetic. I just want a nice life and not to be harassed.
She then asked me what my feelings were and I just can't see the point in even speaking. I said what is the point in me having an opinion about anything, everything I do is wrong. She started ranting again so I've walked out and am sat in my room. I'm crying but it isn't coz of what she says anymore, it because I'm so frustrated by the situation I am in. I feel pathetic and a total looser. My family control my life and as I have no money to get away I put up with it. I've been saving up to pay one of my debts off and finally got it paid last week. I've got about £2500 left to pay on 2 credit cards. All this from my days at uni and depression. If I hadn't been so stupid I might have been able to escape. I have two horses whom I would give my life for and where I have them is low rent and they are happy. So they need to stay where they are. I'm tied because of them but wouldn't give them up for the world. I know if I didn't have them I would have killed myself years ago when my depression was at its worst. If I had money I could do something about it. I keep thinking about getting a new job, anything that pays better. but then the guilt comes in about leaving my Dad, he takes far too much on and couldn't cope without me. I'm sure in a few days I'll be ok and things will be ok, and then a few days after that I'll be back in my room crying as its kicked off again. I feel totally worthless. So sorry to be like this and expect people to read it, I've just no where to turn