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Post by fth on Mar 18, 2012 11:54:35 GMT 1
Hi Dragonmaster -- yes - my fingers can't keep up with my brain at times -- standing joke is about my typos!!! LOL
Cathy
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Post by fth on Mar 18, 2012 11:55:49 GMT 1
curlytobiano -- exactly -- make friends with the fear, it is only trying to keep you safe -- kiss that dragon on the nose!
Cathy
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Post by brynhildr on Apr 5, 2012 16:37:48 GMT 1
I am very afraid of falling and injuring myself, so when I ride I tend to be rather jumpy and nervous whenever the horse stumbles, speeds up, lifts his head...anything! In my case I have had my fair share of injuries (including two broken legs) from my alpine ski racing career, so I've come to the conclusion that this fear is just my body's self preservation instinct! Not much I can do with that! However, getting to know the horse I ride, riding with other people and concentrating on my riding help to stop thinking about injuries for a bit! I have been trying for 10 years to overcome this fear, but it's still there, so I can either learn to live with it and find ways of controlling it or I can give up riding alltogether, which is not an option as I love it so much despite the fear! My solution has been to have riding lessons, concentrate on what I'm doing and think positive...it hasn't solved the problem, but it has certainly improved things It's also good to know that I'm not the only one with this problem and that it seems to be quite normal to feel some fear
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Post by fircones on Apr 24, 2012 18:06:02 GMT 1
I guess its about scaling "fear" back to a manageable level of caution. Caution is probably a good thing because it keeps us safe but if we are too cautious we miss out on stuff. So...you say your horse is a nice quiet steed - keep reminding yourself of this and just set out to do a little. So yes, feel a little fear (or maybe call it anxiety) and just push yourself the tiniest little bit out of your comfort zone. Give yourself huge praise when you have done it. If it gets too scary, go back a step but keep doing SOMETHING even if its just a walk in hand round the block. This is what I did to get myself hacking at the beginning and I do now go out on my own. Like you, I have a nice sensible Neddy - arent they just worth their weight in gold? I leave the nutters to the brave and/or foolish!
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Post by bethspring on Nov 18, 2013 20:35:12 GMT 1
That's what i plan to do with my horsey confidence issues - feel the fear and do it anyway!
With other confidence issues i'm not overly sure how i'm going to be overcoming them!!
x
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Post by portiabuzz on Nov 19, 2013 10:12:34 GMT 1
good for you x
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Post by kizi on Nov 19, 2013 13:46:35 GMT 1
Someone once told me Do something every day that scares me So I do try to remember that every day.. I have told it to others too, and it has helped them.. It makes you feel alive.. It's just one little thing.. And it all adds up!
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Post by portiabuzz on Nov 20, 2013 13:28:36 GMT 1
within reason i imagine kizi LOL
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Post by kizi on Nov 21, 2013 1:21:05 GMT 1
Yes!!! I take it as anything, anything that you consider a bit of a challenge etc.. I told it to my niece a few years ago, she was about 10 but afraid of her own shadow and no confidence. She thought about it a whole week then came back to me and said it was very good advice (there was a bit of a story behind me being told it day 1!) but she still mentions it, and that's a good thing! I guess if it's something that will work for 1 doesn't mean it will for all! The same person used to ask 'Are you part of the problem or are you part of the solution' I considered that rude, but maybe it's the context (it was verbal abuse in my experience!) but it too has helped motivate others!! Just gotta find what works!!
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Post by portiabuzz on Nov 21, 2013 18:23:47 GMT 1
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Post by crazycolt on Aug 12, 2014 8:33:17 GMT 1
Something that helped me, may be worth considering. It could depend on whether the fear is rational, or irrational. Fear is our bodies way of warning us to take care. If there are genuine issues that scare you, these need to be addressed. But if, like me, it's the 'what if?' scenario, then you need to work through it. I had a taster session of NLP while at Moor Wood, as I had a big issue with cantering. I am a visual learner, and this really helped. The evening before going for a ride, you visualise what you would like the ride to be. Picture getting on, calmly and quietly. Then go through your ride, with positive outcomes for each step. This made a massive difference. Also I have a cd by Sharon Shinwell (hope it's okay to put this on, if not please remove it) She, and I'm sure there are others, just that this is the one that I found, does a similar thing, and talks you through your ride, test, whatever. There wasn't a cd for hacking, so I got the dressage one, but no matter, it really worked. Just a couple of ideas. :)Also forgot to say, regards breathing, sing!! I'm known (not for my good voice, unfortunately) as 'that there woman that sings to 'er 'oss!' around the village, and I don't care! If it helps me, because you can't sing and not breathe, and it helps my horse, I'll do whatever it takes. Good luck, and enjoy your horse.
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