Seperation anxiety....sort of

[helenc]

Hi all. Think this is my first post!

Since i moved my boy, Mickey, to our new yard about 2 months ago he has been reunited with a mare that was on livery at the same time as him at a yard we were at about a year ago. We used to hack out together a lot.
Feisty, the mare, has got very attached to mick. To be honest, I don't think it's much of a two way thing. She freaks out if he is brought in without her, or the other way round. If she is left to it she settles within minutes.
The problem is that mick is also getting a little wound up by her. She calls and runs up and down the field until he is out of sight. He doesn't call back, but his energy goes up. He settles too within a few minutes.
They are in separate individual turnout. There is also a third horse there so they are never totally alone.
I've been dealing with it by keeping my energy low and letting mick get rid of his energy in a circle around me, like lunging in his halter, ending the circles when he is walking with a lower energy and when he is back where I want him ie behind me.
What do you think and how would you deal with this?
Thanks

[helenc]

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[laurac]

One tip my IH instructor taught me when leading was to walk with a purpose, ie dont look round focus on something ahead and walk with a purpose, stride out rather than potter that does help Ive tried it
I think in time your lad and the mare will get used to one going and knowing they will come back as time goes on
Its taken me years to get to a point where I can lead one of my boys away from the other without any calling stressing or rearing but now they are both fine
The other thing you could do is to leave the one at home with a treat ball or something nice to munch, some horses are very food orientated (not all though !)