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Post by anastasia55555 on Apr 9, 2011 0:12:37 GMT 1
I havent read any other post or even all of yours because i didnt need to... Maybe its because you worry far too much what other people might think, what other people do or infact often what they 'say' they do which is often very different!! stop comparing to others and think only within your relationship with YOUR horse, bugger everyone else, who cares anyway if you both get on well, both happy doing what you do, even if its not much at the mo and building things up. Its not about anyone else after all! xx
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Post by clarea on Apr 28, 2011 19:52:02 GMT 1
jen1 thank you so much for recommending Heather. Had my first session today
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Post by Dalesgirl on Apr 29, 2011 14:51:34 GMT 1
Keep doing what feels right to you and your horse....having a true bond and enjoying your time together is something that few people ( especially the mouthy 'seen it,done it' brigade ) ever develop. Ps your horse is BEAUTIFUL!
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Post by jen1 on May 6, 2011 15:33:10 GMT 1
jen1 thank you so much for recommending Heather. Had my first session today your welcome, keep at it and you will be a changed woman in no time, maybe one day you should have her out to tap for your lovely ned too, he is the window of your soul ya know!
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Post by bethspring on Nov 18, 2013 20:43:04 GMT 1
clarea i know that feeling very very well - keep smiling, without the dark days we wouldn't know how to appreciate the bright ones xx
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Post by lesleyking1 on Nov 19, 2013 19:12:33 GMT 1
loads of great advice, I'm just wondering what else helpful I can add.
I am helping a young girl with her pony at the moment, she makes the same comments as you; I tell her that we all have these thoughts, but the rest of us deal with them. some of us where telling her that it gets easier once you've had kids, because you get used to having to get on with things.
moosmum makes a good point that really applies to me, I've ridden since I was tiny, mainly lessons in riding schools, but I just never seem to 'get it', riding terms like degrees of flexion, contact, into the bridle, behind the leg.........etc. sounded like Latin! I came across an instructor while I was loaning who every one raved about, she took my riding apart and we started from scratch, and suddenly it all made sense; it wasn't me it was all the crappy teachers I had been through, probably great at knowing riding but useless at explaining, I had issues with my lower leg that so many instructors had told me I should just accept, my instructor picked up on this before I asked her and sorted it in one session. Now I have her every few weeks, just because I am quick to blame myself and she is great for injecting boosts of confidence. Do you have lessons, it might be an idea to try a few different instructors to see if you can find one that does it for you.
keep posting, we like praising up small steps. In your post you didn't put much about what it is that's not working in your riding or relationship with your horse, or what it is you want to do. (it doesn't look like its going to wrong in your pic)
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Post by lesleyking1 on Nov 19, 2013 19:13:23 GMT 1
loads of great advice, I'm just wondering what else helpful I can add.
I am helping a young girl with her pony at the moment, she makes the same comments as you; I tell her that we all have these thoughts, but the rest of us deal with them. some of us where telling her that it gets easier once you've had kids, because you get used to having to get on with things.
moosmum makes a good point that really applies to me, I've ridden since I was tiny, mainly lessons in riding schools, but I just never seem to 'get it', riding terms like degrees of flexion, contact, into the bridle, behind the leg.........etc. sounded like Latin! I came across an instructor while I was loaning who every one raved about, she took my riding apart and we started from scratch, and suddenly it all made sense; it wasn't me it was all the crappy teachers I had been through, probably great at knowing riding but useless at explaining, I had issues with my lower leg that so many instructors had told me I should just accept, my instructor picked up on this before I asked her and sorted it in one session. Now I have her every few weeks, just because I am quick to blame myself and she is great for injecting boosts of confidence. Do you have lessons, it might be an idea to try a few different instructors to see if you can find one that does it for you.
keep posting, we like praising up small steps. In your post you didn't put much about what it is that's not working in your riding or relationship with your horse, or what it is you want to do. (it doesn't look like its going to wrong in your pic)
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Post by portiabuzz on Nov 20, 2013 13:24:54 GMT 1
another old thread resurected
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Post by nomdeac on Nov 30, 2013 17:53:56 GMT 1
This sounds so familiar that I could have written it! One of the things that has helped me is writing down my feelings of being inadequate/not good enough and then challenging them as if another person was telling me that they felt those things. I've also noticed that the feelings are much more powerful when I'm tired or under stress...not sure if that's something that happens with you too? Kelly's 'Perfect Confidence' book has helped a lot too. x Could not agree with this more. I've done this exercise and return to it occasionaly. I do need to push myself still but at least now my pushing works. Good luck with your riding x
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