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Post by wabuska on Jan 5, 2010 19:40:00 GMT 1
Ah.... now there's that word.... perfectionist..... a bit of self healing needed m'dear! This is the most dreadful time of year to do any thinking whatsoever. Trust me, I feel your pain. You should see the state of me. XX
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Post by Amanda Seater on Jan 5, 2010 19:43:59 GMT 1
Well reading through this. If you could reduce your hours - great. If not - I think you have answered your own questions - follow your heart. Better to have tried and failed and all that.
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Post by Emma R on Jan 5, 2010 20:32:07 GMT 1
Swings and roundabouts, massive highs and totally demoralising lows in teaching. Very draining emotionally, that and the constant paper work, lesson planning, marking, meetings, inspections etc etc. Dealing with asbo kids is the easy bit really. Very rarely feel I'm 'making a difference', mostly treading water and fire fighting problems. Wouldn't really recommend it nich! Oh dear, I've been trying to get into teaching Having spent the three and a half years since I graduated doing poorly paid and mostly temporary admin jobs I really need to get a proper job so I can get my own house Can't afford to keep Saff and get my own place and Saff isn't going anywhere ;D So far I haven't been able to get even a one day placement in a school though, too many people wanting to train to be English teachers Hope you manage to find a solution the whole family is happy with sonicboy, it's horrible being stuck in a job you don't enjoy and it must be even harder when you have an OH and kids to think about too.
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Post by sonicboy on Jan 5, 2010 20:42:57 GMT 1
That's exactly why I got a 'proper' job Emma. Massive drop out rate for teachers in the first 5 years or so. Very life consuming, but ignore negative moaners like me. It can be very rewarding too, just mahoosive workload. I trained in staffs at Keele, got training placement in Cheshire. If you want placement and can't find one, behaviour units could be a place to look, that's kind of where I started. Enjoyed it too, believe it or not, less stressful!
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Post by rosemaryhannah on Jan 5, 2010 21:06:59 GMT 1
The weather will not always be like this.
The nature of livery yards will not change.
Currently you are hobbled by a large mortgage. This is an added stress and will prevent you cutting your hours very much.
Is it more stressful to have a dissatisfied family or live with a livery yard?
What is the cost of the yard as opposed to the extra on mortgage and the field rent? Would you really save money? Can you keep the rented field, and walk there on the odd occasion the weather is this bad? Might that square the circle?
What horsey career do you actually want?
What income do you need from it?
Is there anywhere in the village you want to live?
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Post by arabheaven on Jan 5, 2010 21:14:02 GMT 1
why not move to a different school? or go into primary? I am primary and absolutely love it, wouldn't do any other job even if I won the lottery! Definitely sounds like you need a change, and soon, before you end up in a downwards spiral life is too short to be unhappy!xxx
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Post by sonicboy on Jan 5, 2010 21:23:39 GMT 1
True Rosemaryhannah, weather pretty depressing now. Haven't been able to get the car home since Dec 20th so walking to the village and back every day to get it before heading for work, kids in tow. Yard diy grass livery is the same as I pay now for my field, so no real difference there but neds all happy and easy to do now. People at yard all struggle with their's being unsettled and I really don't want that. Real dream is to downsize mortgage and buy a field but pipe dream that is very unlikely to happen as land doesn't become available. Would have fair bit of equity if we sold the house, so would have more freedom to take a risk and be ok. As far as horsey careers, clueless. Not necessarily hands on job, just in the industry in some way. Wondered if anyone had any ideas what I could do with my background really. No houses in the village at the moment but ours could take ages to sell anyway. Scared that I might have 'grass is greener' syndrome, but on other hand if I don't try Ill never know. Just very torn, stressed and not very happy.
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Post by happysnail on Jan 6, 2010 17:56:43 GMT 1
I'd think about cutting down the hours and phasing a transition into a new career that way you can see if it suits the family lifestyle and give yourself much more options. All the best. happysnailx
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