Final straw. we are on the the move......

[arabmania]

I am sick to death and have had it up to here [glow=red,2,300]*** points above head****[/glow]
asti has now been stabled for 24/7 for one FULL week and the goal posts have been changed for her to go back out, during the day, once to often
I have got my vets permission to move her back to our original yard ( had to move when i dislocated/broke shoulder due to distance and me not being able to drive).
The YO (original yard) phoned my vet today (she also uses him so knows him well), with my permission, and he has filled her in on his opinion as to whether she is infectious.
So i have been given the go ahead and i cannot wait to get away from this 'open to anything' yard!
Asti absolutely hates me !! I think she blames me for her predicament. She begs at me to go out and there is nothing i can do. she then gets annoyed and tried taking a chunk out of me yesterday. which is so unlike her.
Richie is okay because he does the nice things with her whilst im mucking out etc etc.,
Anyway it looks like boxing day will be when i move her (due to work). guess who arrives boxing day? yaaaaaaaaaayyyyy! Toni. bet she didnt expect to be helping me

[bramblesmum]

Sounds like a wise call with everything that has gone on, don't worry about asti once she gets to streatch her legs she'll be on good terms with you again

[Casper]

Sounds like you'll both be well out of where you are at the moment AM. Glad that Asti has been given the all clear.

Hope you are well on the way to being mended now too.

x

[sara]

sounds great, like a really positive move

[arabmania]

i am such a wuss......... i left the yard in tears tonight!
asti greeted me and i scratched her bum and did all the usual things, mucked out, changed water, refilled haylage nets, fed her, picked her feet out, sat and talked to her..... then she started putting her ears flat back after begging to go out.
She followed me to the door and got annoyed with me when i stroked her and refused to accept any further massage, grooming or anything to make her feel better
i felt like i was holding her prisoner and it all got too much and yes i blubbered i told her i was so very sorry etc etc., and ended up phoning to arrange to move her tomorrow, regardless of time.
i have phoned everywhere tonight and have her new bed sorted for tomorrow night and am hoping that i will have someone available to up the ramp and then down the ramp tomorrow.

[Casper]

Good luck with the move today AM.

[mags]

I'm really sorry to mention it but I have to say is it safe to move with suspected strangles on the yard. Believe me I know how hard it is... I had to leave dan behind in derbyshire when I moved because he had been exposed to strangles that was on the yard and had to wait till it was safe. Its heart breaking but has to be done

[eden]

Been following your threads, just want to wish you luck, it really upset me when I moved to a yard with them in full time in the winter! I know how you feel, never ever again.
Merry Christmas

Kate xx

[arabmania]

We moved last night.
i couldn't get any time off work so had to load asti in the dark
i felt a bit apprehensive as i wasn't sure if she would load into a dark trailer so i positioned it the best i could to get maximum light from the yard to enter....... causing shadows A MASSIVE ASK .
anyway she was reluctant at first and just as i was about to call it a day, on she went. (which brought to mind later what kelly wrote about in her earlier training days).
she settled and i turned her out this morning with her old friend who she hasn't seen for 4 months.
got a call from richie at 4pm (i was at work) to say that she had been flying around the field when her old pal was brought in, even though there was another horse left in with her.
she was lathered up and stressing in the stable so he took her for a walk to calm her down.
she was still winding herself up when i arrived at the yard. I changed her stable rug as it was soaked and put another on that 'wicks away'. Forgetting her manners and rushing to her door at every opportunity. i was firm but hopefully kind.
My belief is that she is feeling very insecure at the moment after being cooped up for 24/7 for 9 days, an owner whom she has lost faith in , then finally being given turn out with another horse that she has known for years previously.
that horse is taken away (to be ridden) and she is feeling panicky.
My logic tells me that once she gets back into her normal routine, she will settle again ?
please be honest with any suggestions/critisisms.

[emi]

Sounds like you've got it in one arabmania - I mean people always say horses are routine animals and it seems that her routine has been totally shaken up recently, so she;s bound to be worried when her friend is taken away - she could never see this friend again like last time! It might take her a week or so to settle back into her old routine but I'm sure she will calm down. and don't blame yourself- horses are very good at making you feel guilty or bad, but they love you really! I think they don't realise that we humans take their bad moods personally!!!

[magicboy]

I don't post often but had to here. I've had to move my horse three times this year due to circumstances. My horse is a real drama queen and I was very worried how it would effect him. He seemed to take each move in his stride, bless him. I spent as much time as I could with him. I've now got a place on a great yard and he's fine, even settled into a stable at night. On the other yards I was stressed and unhappy and that didn't do him any good. Just give your horse and yourself time. It'll all work out for the best

[sundance]

How is she now? Hopefully you will be able to spend some time with her over the holiday. I am so glad that you managed to get her away from the other yard.She is bound to be unsettled at first, but at least you know the yard you are on now so won't have to move her again.

[melissa1787]

It is like if someone changed our rountines and we cannot hear or speak then would you panic.
Probs!
So with a horse i guess it is kind of the same, she cannot hear us as they talk horse and us english or whatever language and therefore they are deaf. They do not get it why they are changed in routine and so do things out of the ordinary to us. Not to them.

Another words , when a horse realises things are ok again and back to normal for them they will therefore calm down and relax.

Have you tried massaging your horse to get a bond. Works wonders, if you get it right and hit the right spot.

Hope i make some sense.

Sorry if i don't.

Jabbering Melissa1787

[arabmania]

thanks for all your positive thoughts. its very encouraging to me.
mellissa, you make perfect sense i do usually enjoy giving her a basic massage but at the moment she is too hyped up and i have to be careful that my shoulder doesn't take too much of a knock.
yesterday she was much calmer and we enjoyed a grooming session but this morning she was hyped up again when i arrived to turn her out.
She is standing at her door and throwing her head literally up and down. not standing for rug changes and wanting to barge towards her door with total disregard for me. Again, i am trying to be firm but kind. As she steps towards her door i then ask her to step back until she stands! I feel it is going to take a while until i get my relaxed and confident asti back but all i can do is be patient. After all im the one who put her in this position!

[DebbieR]

Once you relax Asti will be fine.
It will take her a while to settle into her new place but I'm sure she's picking up on your guilt and worry & once that goes she'll know there's nothing to worry about.
It sounds as if you're in a better place if Asti can go out with an old friend so hang in there & watch the situation improve