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Post by horseless on Aug 13, 2006 22:29:09 GMT 1
I lost my very special horse, Maggie, on 12th June, and I seem to be missing her more as time goes by. In addition, it has meant a total life change as I no longer have any contact with horses. I'm so sad, even though I know it meant the end to her suffering. How do you come to terms with it? It is like losing a member of the family (and I do know what that is like) but because to some people it is just "losing an animal" you are expected to get on with life, there is no acceptance of the grieving process. I really don't know what to do.  |
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Post by lucitania on Aug 13, 2006 22:42:43 GMT 1
You need to grieve in your own way; cry , sulk, whatever it may be. We all know what it is like, I doubt any one of use here see them as 'just animals'. It may be helpful to tell us more about Maggie, if you want. You gave her the greatest gift by ending her suffering. It is okay to feel sad and lost, pet.  |
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Post by tl on Aug 13, 2006 23:11:24 GMT 1
It's not just loosing an animal, it's losing a special friend.
Remember the good times, and be happy that you helped her when she needed you most.
It will get better, I promise.
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Post by julz on Aug 15, 2006 11:40:37 GMT 1
I lost my cat Treacle 5 years ago.... i still miss him. But still have pics of Treacle up, and although I have two new cats now, nothing will replace my Treacle..... I still have his ashes on a window sill...I can't yet bear to bury them.
I feel for you, Horseless.....
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Post by Jane on Aug 15, 2006 11:53:18 GMT 1
Grieve away, my dear, you are in good company here. You will come to terms with it in your own way, over time.
I lost my treasured horse just over a year ago. Like you, it completely changed my lifestyle as well. I also had to end his suffering, which meant I had to experience his suffering during the weeks beforehand. Unbearable.
Just yesterday, I was sorting through some stuff and came across a length of tail hair I had kept. That was enough to have me suddenly howling again. And yet on other days, I have looked at his photos and things associated with him and felt accepting and mellow.
You are in very early days yet, less than two months on, so don't worry about doing anything - just feel whatever you feel. You will come back to horses in some way, once you're ready. For now, just feel the love for your dear horse and you will gradually start to understand and accept what's happened.
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Post by auburnalia on Aug 15, 2006 13:23:38 GMT 1
I am not just saying this but this site will really help you! I lost my beautiful girlie not long ago (thats her in my sig) my life has never been the same since - seriously, I know that sounds melodramatic but there is not one single day that goes by that I dont think of her, sometimes I cry sometimes I smile. But being on here and being able to share my stories and experiances kind of keeps her alive (I probably bore people silly!!).
I cant tell you that things will get easier I am sure they will but it does take time, Auburns stuff is STILL on my bedroom floor, I cant bear to move it - I will have to one day though but for now her feed bowl will sit unwashed....
I had a painting done, which I have just had framed. Do you have a favourite picture you can frame and display?
Please feel free to PM me anytime you like, I know it is so hard, unbearable at times, It feels like your heart will never mend but read the poems on Rainbow Bridge and you will see just how happy Maggie is.
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Post by dianne on Aug 15, 2006 13:45:06 GMT 1
No wonder you are sad, it's a huge trauma to lose something or someone we love. You need to grieve, and you need to look after yourself.
whereabouts are you? maybe someone could do with a hand with their horses, which might help you feel a bit better and keep you busy.
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Post by Louise C on Aug 15, 2006 15:40:05 GMT 1
Agree with the others - it's a tough time for you - it's not something I have experienced yet but dread happening.
((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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Post by jen1 on Aug 18, 2006 17:51:33 GMT 1
hugs to you, time does heal
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Post by jill on Aug 18, 2006 18:54:08 GMT 1
Welcome to the board, what a tough time you are having. Does it help to be around other peoples horses? Or does that make it worse? Can you borrow one belonging to a friend, or help out a local rescue or something - you'll get your horse "fix" and be helping at the same time, but the only real answer is time, I'm afraid - that and other DGers who have mostly been through similar.
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