Post by holi on Jan 17, 2012 13:01:11 GMT 1
My OH came up with a brilliant thing the other day. I was saying how I wished I had more confidence like him and he said I wasn't to think of it in terms of confidence as using the word helped you to fail - no confidence etc. He is a pretty successful man (surgeon) and has to act confident for his patients at all times, give lectures etc even if he is not so has learnt all the tricks!
He says to think of it in terms of personal volume. He says his 'body volume' is at a higher setting than mine so although I feel confident in my brain it doesn't translate through my body language to the horse as my volume control is too low. I got thinking of this and thought it was a brilliant way to think about it. He doesn't mean turning up shouting etc but just so that you can act more through how you carry your yourself etc so when you ask the horse something, it listens so you don't end up grovelling and whimpering please as it takes no notice.
It makes such sense and for me at least, a perfect way to think. She is not listening and fixated on the horizon, another horse etc - you ask for some attention. Horse doesn't respond so turn up the volume. I know it sounds a bit Parelli but he doesn't use it with 'games' just how he moves around the horse with purpose and if they rush off, buck or whatever he just says 'no' and turns the volume down again (sickening really lol). THink about Monty or Kelly and they move with purpose and you can almost hear the confidence in them - makes you think.
Try it - it might work
He says to think of it in terms of personal volume. He says his 'body volume' is at a higher setting than mine so although I feel confident in my brain it doesn't translate through my body language to the horse as my volume control is too low. I got thinking of this and thought it was a brilliant way to think about it. He doesn't mean turning up shouting etc but just so that you can act more through how you carry your yourself etc so when you ask the horse something, it listens so you don't end up grovelling and whimpering please as it takes no notice.
It makes such sense and for me at least, a perfect way to think. She is not listening and fixated on the horizon, another horse etc - you ask for some attention. Horse doesn't respond so turn up the volume. I know it sounds a bit Parelli but he doesn't use it with 'games' just how he moves around the horse with purpose and if they rush off, buck or whatever he just says 'no' and turns the volume down again (sickening really lol). THink about Monty or Kelly and they move with purpose and you can almost hear the confidence in them - makes you think.
Try it - it might work
