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Post by tigersmandy on Nov 21, 2011 14:25:43 GMT 1
Hi All I have a 4 year old section D which I have backed and he is working nicely on the ground, long lining and ridden in school. I also hack him out with another pony and although not confident he manages it and eventually becomes relaxed. Anyway, this weekend no one to ride out with  but I did have someone to walk out with me on foot. Lets just say I'm middle aged who does struggle with confidence at times lol. Anyway we left the field and Tiger was very nervous and spooky but I made myself breath and relax and mentally thought I'm not getting off until the top of the road because I know he can cope with that. Anyway very pleased I made it. So decided to move onto the next phase and walked him on foot along the busier road, he was nervous but just because lots of things he hadn't seen before. We carried on and ended up doing a 2 hour hack on foot and ...... very pleased because at the end of it he was extremely releaxed and actually enjoying himself. Yes, it would have been better not to be such a coward and get off but just thought I demonstrate how I try to work around the issues I have with the tools available. Any tips and ideas on what you'd do in this situation would be greatly appreciated. |
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Post by sarahlev on Nov 21, 2011 18:01:00 GMT 1
Well done Mandy. I would say you did just the right thing, as proved by you both finishing relaxed and happy. Getting off sounds very sensible to me, not cowardly at all. As it is you've both had a positive experience which you can build on, as and when you both feel ready.
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Post by wabuska on Nov 21, 2011 19:19:35 GMT 1
Well, having backed your own horse, I don't think you should throw the word 'coward' around so lightly..... sounds like you're doing a great job in my opinion!
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Post by rifruffian on Nov 21, 2011 22:14:46 GMT 1
Going for a walk with your horse is one of the best things to do at anytime.
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Post by tigersmandy on Nov 21, 2011 22:18:40 GMT 1
Thank you both for your kind comments. I use the word coward because sometimes I can feel the panic rising inside me and have to make my self think breathe and relax be because I know if I'm not relaxed he won't be so I practise deep breathing when I feel this happening and it really does work. Guess its easy to be too hard on yourself so will just try to keep working within my confidence capabilities and if I end up walking him out on foot all over the countryside before we able to ride it then so be it as I'm sure we will get there together one day. Just dont want to let him down.
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Post by sarahlev on Nov 22, 2011 18:51:23 GMT 1
Thank you both for your kind comments. I use the word coward because sometimes I can feel the panic rising inside me and have to make my self think breathe and relax be because I know if I'm not relaxed he won't be so I practise deep breathing when I feel this happening and it really does work. Guess its easy to be too hard on yourself so will just try to keep working within my confidence capabilities and if I end up walking him out on foot all over the countryside before we able to ride it then so be it as I'm sure we will get there together one day. Just dont want to let him down. That's not cowardice, that's bravery ;D Sounds like you're doing fine. |
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Post by Mellymoo on Nov 22, 2011 22:35:09 GMT 1
I think you did fabulously - and you are not a coward at all!! I like pottering about on foot with my boy, we have a lovely time. Next time you go out, you could ride out a little, walk with him a little, then get back on when you're almost home and ride back? Mix it up a bit ;D
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Post by tigersmandy on Dec 4, 2011 22:37:57 GMT 1
A little update .........
yesssssssssss we did it at last took tiger out today just the two of us with a friend following on foot got to top of road which is where I usually then get off and lead thought I'm ok we can go a bit further so the. Crossed the scary bendy fast road walked along till we got to the woods had a little hack round the woods and went back home. I managed the whole lot riding I cried when we got back because I was so proud of both of us I have doubted many times that we would ever get to this point but with a lot of patience and work with tiger and me just working within my confidence levels and refusing to give up we did it.
Sorry bit of a long and gushy post lol
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Post by ladyndibs on Dec 4, 2011 23:16:45 GMT 1
Don't be sorry that's fantastic, you should be proud you've done a grand job.
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Post by sarahlev on Dec 5, 2011 7:23:47 GMT 1
That's great, really pleased for you.
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Post by fth on Dec 5, 2011 22:11:46 GMT 1
well done! it often happens that respecting your confidence issues and taking your time has great benefits later as you can then achieve things you thought were out of your reach!
xx
Cathy
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Post by tigersmandy on Dec 20, 2011 16:57:28 GMT 1
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Post by holi on Jan 17, 2012 12:12:52 GMT 1
Getting off is not cowardly - its the right thing to do at the right time. So perfect judgement! In fact I was talking to a lovely lady at the weekend who says she often takes her horse for walks in hand - to much ridicule from others in the yard. She used to do parelli but has now changed over to IH as she thought it had become too harsh and her views are changing. Its about the two of you she said, rather than dominance and she felt that her reflxes and responses on the ground were better than riding. THis meant that often when riding in traffic, or her mood was wrong etc she wouldn't do her horse any favours so she walked him out. Simples!!  |
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but I did have someone to walk out with me on foot. Lets just say I'm middle aged who does struggle with confidence at times lol. Anyway we left the field and Tiger was very nervous and spooky but I made myself breath and relax and mentally thought I'm not getting off until the top of the road because I know he can cope with that. Anyway very pleased I made it. So decided to move onto the next phase and walked him on foot along the busier road, he was nervous but just because lots of things he hadn't seen before.
