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Post by kirsten on Aug 10, 2011 22:46:32 GMT 1
I have to finally admit it - my daughter is 9 months old and I am becoming ridiculously fearful of riding my 16hh cobs. They are 17 and 20 years old and I have been in their lives for over 10 years. I even picture them kicking me as I walk behind them (they have never threatened such a thing, they have lovely natures). They are on too rich grass at the moment which is making them more spooky and fresh, but I've contacted a nutritionist about this.
Has anyone else gotten through this?Thanks!
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Post by milo2008 on Aug 16, 2011 9:59:58 GMT 1
Hello YES!! I did the foundation course when my daughter was 3 months old...I had no confidence and felt sad as I wasnt myself again yet! She is now 15 months and I am back to normal! I too had fears about my horses. Worried they were going to kick, hurt me, I would fall off. I think it is a natural thing when you have had a baby. You realise that if anything happens to you, what would baby do! It will come back, your confidence. You are nearly there! Have a huge party when she is 1! Just keep cuddling the horses, believe it will come back and i is just a temproraty adjustment. Getting used to being mummy is hard! Especially with horses as they were the most important ones that depended on you! Believe in yourself, soon you will be walking behind the again wondering where the scared person was. Promise  |
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Post by rj on Aug 16, 2011 13:05:19 GMT 1
Don't worry it's perfectly natural, and absolutely necessary for you to feel like this to begin with.
It's nature making sure that you take no risks that would deprive your baby of it's principle carer, and the one person who needs to be there for the first few years of life.
I had the remnants for years - never particularly brave in the first place - because you tend to 'what if?' when there are others relting on you to be there, be fit, and make everything right!
Another effect I found was brains turning to custard - don't worry about that either, it only lasts about 40 years ;-)
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Post by mmel001 on Aug 16, 2011 14:42:33 GMT 1
Hello
I feel like this with my boy and I'm pregnant at the moment.
One thing I do that might work for you is if I am feeling particularly nervous and have visions of being dragged down the field or kicked in the head etc, I stop for a minute and then visualise Indie walking nicely next to me and concentrate on how nice it feels. Any negative thoughts I that try and creep in I then dismiss and try and replace with positive ones. It isn't easy but, I find that if I can calm myself down generally (not always, but generally!) things go much smoother with my horse!
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Post by kirsten on Aug 16, 2011 22:30:09 GMT 1
Thank you all so much... glad I'm not going completely mad! Agree visualisation is great and not sure why I have blocked that out. Guess having offspring is just not that good for you...!!
Thanks, so reassuring to know it will all be okay.x
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Post by mumof2 on Aug 18, 2011 22:31:30 GMT 1
Not mad at all. As others have said its a natural response once you've had kids. I wasnt too bad around my horse, but I was much more aware when dealing with other people's horses on the ground. I was also slightly more on edge when riding on the roads once I'd had my little boy. It did pass but took a while.
I think in genera, once you have kids,l you are much more aware of your own mortality and the implications on your new family should anything happen to you.
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Post by kirsten on Aug 18, 2011 23:29:06 GMT 1
Thank you. x
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