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Post by narkymare on Jun 27, 2011 19:12:11 GMT 1
Ok my confidence has taken a massive nose dive this year and do you know what - im so so sick of it and gettign pretty annoyed! Its now annoying me so so much - so today i sat and actually thought what it is i am actually scared of - really really sort of analysed myself - what worrie sme when my horse spooks? I realised my biggest fear is falling on a structure - I dread falling on a stump. railing, electric fence etc - which explains why i hate hacking in built up closed areas! Omg im so annoyed its taken me nearly 3 years to figure this out! Tonight i schooled my boy and yo started messing with scaffolding on his house nearby - bing bang bong - instead of dismounting like i usually would, i decreased our circles well away from the school fence - did lots of serpentines, smaller circle work! It worked - happy horse didnt spook once, and i actually enjoyed it! Who says i have to school round the edge of the school right now? Its my horse, my confidence - if we work 2 feet away from edge of school till both our confidences grows so what? Lol just had to share - if your confidence has gone break it down and identify what it really is you are scared of. With me its as above - you may be scared of open fields. What im saying is dont stop riding - just avoid these situations so you can enjoy your horses in other ways, ways that make you both feel happy and safe - confidence can only grow for you and your horse!  |
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Post by gordo on Jun 29, 2011 21:47:39 GMT 1
For me its the fear of being so high up on Gordo's back and falling off and getting badly hurt. I feel powerless as he is such a power house but he has rarely given me a reason to have battles but its the 'what ifs' that cripple me.
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Post by julz on Jun 29, 2011 21:53:46 GMT 1
I suppose my fear is that should I fall off wrongly my thigh will smash and I'll more than likely end up in a wheelchair..... but i still ride - carefully - if it's going to happen it will and no-one can stop it..
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Post by mrsmills on Jul 1, 2011 9:07:32 GMT 1
What a really good post, narkymare. All progress has to start with with truthful and honest analysis to find out what the problem/fear really is.
And of course, as we all know, just worrying that something might happen doesn't actually stop it happening. Only positive action will do that.
So, once you've analysed, then is the time to form an action plan. Decide on your long-term goal, then devise a series of short-term little goals that will help you to get to your bigger long-term goal.
Good luck with your future riding and progress towards your goals. Sounds like you've made a really really positive start.
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Post by 2 bays & a grey:D on Jul 1, 2011 16:55:53 GMT 1
Its the worst thing you can do- expect the worst, I and I am very guilty of it, never used to be. Never worried about things on hacks with Nancy, just in the school, went in their the other day and had images of her bolton, we were only standing!!
Went on a hack on Bronte- went over a motorway bridge- she was watching the cars coming and disappearing and I had images of her spooking so much that we ended up on the edge of the bridge and me being toppled over the side and falling to my death- how ridiculous- and the chance of it happening are nil- but it worried me but carried on anyway.
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Post by narkymare on Jul 2, 2011 15:11:56 GMT 1
2 bays that is me!!! Teh "what ifs " that go through my head are utterly ridiculous! I have been looking into nlp training and as soon as funds allow am booking a course - Im getting so annoyed and ashamed of myself!  |
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Post by annmarieb on Jul 3, 2011 20:20:24 GMT 1
i'm having a major loss of confidence with my mare and she is not at all bad , just she needs a confident rider and i've no confidence.
I've been out of riding for years and basically come back and ive never been so nervous about getting on. shes scared because ive no confidence. there is no trust
Ive had a local trainer out and shes a good friend and i know she has my best interests at heart, keeps telling me the more im on her the easier it will be.
Eh HELLO I CAN'T EVEN BRING MYSELF TO GET ON. and it's making me worse cause i want to but i just can't place why i'm so nervous and it's driving us further apart
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Post by narkymare on Jul 4, 2011 0:02:57 GMT 1
ive got my old instructor back - shes a tad more expensive but she did knwo how to push us both - ive had "easy" lessons since , cheaper and at time i thought better - but i need somone ot push me and my horse - this first instructor broke my horse in so knows him and knows his capabilities - plus she isnt scared of pissing me off me off lol - my favourite saying is "shall we finish on this good note" - she is like no - do it twice more! Hard work but what i need!
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Post by julz on Jul 4, 2011 10:57:46 GMT 1
i'm having a major loss of confidence with my mare and she is not at all bad , just she needs a confident rider and i've no confidence. I've been out of riding for years and basically come back and ive never been so nervous about getting on. shes scared because ive no confidence. there is no trust Ive had a local trainer out and shes a good friend and i know she has my best interests at heart, keeps telling me the more im on her the easier it will be. Eh HELLO I CAN'T EVEN BRING MYSELF TO GET ON. and it's making me worse cause i want to but i just can't place why i'm so nervous and it's driving us further apart Longline your horse.. in the way you would normally if you were to ride.... ie, school her in long lines... hack her in long lines... watch how she listens to you... how she responds to you.... you will get confidence from this, she will get excersize, a bond will form and you will find yourself wanting to get on... when you do, take it slow.. stay in walk til the confidence builds up but keep longlining in between |
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Post by annmarieb on Jul 7, 2011 21:37:00 GMT 1
I wish I could julz but i dont know how to long line. we are making slow progess i have managed to walk past scary cows and Mr Stallion , just taking it very very slow and not doing to much at once, for me and her
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Post by rosemaryhannah on Jul 7, 2011 22:29:06 GMT 1
The best thing of all is leading a horse out in hand. It has the advantage of building on skills you already have - if you can walk her round a stable yard, you can learn to 'hack' her out in hand. Then it is a very natural situation - you leading, your horse following you. You can talk to her, and show her things, and enjoy her. All the time she is learning that you are her natural leader when you are together. Then you both get fit. Win-win situation.
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Post by fth on Jul 8, 2011 11:26:23 GMT 1
this is a great thread -- one of the things we do when I am coaching is actually imagine the worst -- then make a plan for it....
that plan can relly help build confidence!
Cathy
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Post by narkymare on Jul 8, 2011 16:10:07 GMT 1
this is a great thread -- one of the things we do when I am coaching is actually imagine the worst -- then make a plan for it.... that plan can relly help build confidence! Cathy excellent advice !!! - lol id better get started thugh cos i have lots of "worse case scenarios" lol |
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