Post by kt with Hanni on Dec 1, 2009 23:11:41 GMT 1
Hi,
Just wanted some advice. I have been given an opportunity that I have only dreamt about. My grandad who currently has a farm said to me at the weekend that he would like to give me money to purchase my own small holding property. He knows i've always dreamt of having Hanni at the bottom of my garden and having more animals. He successfully made money in windfarm and wants to help me. He also wants to help my parents but they aren't sure whether to accept his offer. I am also not sure, is that wrong to take this opportunity? He is really serious and keeps talking about it and i'm not sure what to do! What would you do?
I met with my grandfather and his wife today. There proposition is a gift of £500,000 for a small holding. Anything over this and I can pay them back in 3 years. My grandfather desperately wants to see me have a smallholding with animals as he knows how much i've always wanted it. In 3 years I would have the opportunity to do t then but I believe he wants to see me do it now so he can see me enjoying it (he is 83) Now I told him that I am overwhelmed by the offer but felt if I took the money it wouldn't be fair on my immediate cousins and brother. His wife has her own adult children who she has bought various things for but said not everyone can have money given if they don't need it for anything particular. She also said the other grandchildren hadn't really made an effort to visit etc. Then they said they would give them some money but may not be able to gift me as much as £500,000 which I'm fine about as any money is a bonus. They said I could mention it to the others and see what they think. I feel for my dad and aunt as he hasn't offered them anything but I know they don't hold a grudge against me. My dad has a distant relationship with my grandfather so does the aunty. What would you do in my shoes? I plan to speak to my brother and cousins at xmas and see what they feel.
Just wanted some advice. I have been given an opportunity that I have only dreamt about. My grandad who currently has a farm said to me at the weekend that he would like to give me money to purchase my own small holding property. He knows i've always dreamt of having Hanni at the bottom of my garden and having more animals. He successfully made money in windfarm and wants to help me. He also wants to help my parents but they aren't sure whether to accept his offer. I am also not sure, is that wrong to take this opportunity? He is really serious and keeps talking about it and i'm not sure what to do! What would you do?
I met with my grandfather and his wife today. There proposition is a gift of £500,000 for a small holding. Anything over this and I can pay them back in 3 years. My grandfather desperately wants to see me have a smallholding with animals as he knows how much i've always wanted it. In 3 years I would have the opportunity to do t then but I believe he wants to see me do it now so he can see me enjoying it (he is 83) Now I told him that I am overwhelmed by the offer but felt if I took the money it wouldn't be fair on my immediate cousins and brother. His wife has her own adult children who she has bought various things for but said not everyone can have money given if they don't need it for anything particular. She also said the other grandchildren hadn't really made an effort to visit etc. Then they said they would give them some money but may not be able to gift me as much as £500,000 which I'm fine about as any money is a bonus. They said I could mention it to the others and see what they think. I feel for my dad and aunt as he hasn't offered them anything but I know they don't hold a grudge against me. My dad has a distant relationship with my grandfather so does the aunty. What would you do in my shoes? I plan to speak to my brother and cousins at xmas and see what they feel.