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Post by bumper on Jun 19, 2008 18:17:46 GMT 1
What a lovely idea! Its very good of you to take the time to do this Wendy Would be delighted to join in.
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Post by Casper on Jun 19, 2008 18:21:38 GMT 1
What a generous offer Wendy. I cant ride for approx 6 weeks - does that prohibit me from joining in?
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Post by wendyihts on Jun 19, 2008 19:12:29 GMT 1
Casper, I suspect the only issue is what we work on and how. Right guys, I'm going to go and make dinner for the family, go ride my horse and then will be back on here about 10pm my time, 9pm UK time, and we will start from there. So have a look on here either later this evening or tomorrow and try to respond before 9/10pm tomorrow evening if possible. I think we will be moving on with things whether or not everyone has finished their various 'assignments' so if you have to skip a session, you'll just have to do what you can when you can. But no worries It's a fun, free, no strings kinda thing.
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Post by snc on Jun 19, 2008 19:27:44 GMT 1
What good timing. I just got back from holiday and decided that i needed to pull myself together. What a good place to start. ;D
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Post by 3pinkmonkeys on Jun 19, 2008 20:12:38 GMT 1
Can I join in too? Have'nt quite finished reading 'perfect confidence', so I'm off to crack on with it
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Post by mrsmurchin on Jun 19, 2008 20:41:44 GMT 1
Ok, I'm going to out myself and say can I join in too please? I'm unable to ride at the mo (saddleless) but would love to progress with my confidence.
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Post by em&ed on Jun 19, 2008 20:45:39 GMT 1
can i join in please? *raises hand up* I have the PC book, have skimmed it - do you have to have done all the assignments? I haven't time to do them as well as..... thanks
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Post by mountaingoat on Jun 19, 2008 20:54:42 GMT 1
Arrgghhhh, can't find my PC book! Hmpff... why do things always go missing when you need them? Looking forward to starting
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Post by rosi on Jun 19, 2008 21:13:10 GMT 1
This is an excellent opportunity - thank you Wendy. Can I join in? I have a mental block about jumping! I do have PC and OH (Rosisotherhalf) and I can help each other as well. I look forward to starting.
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Post by wendyihts on Jun 19, 2008 21:26:02 GMT 1
OK guys, are you ready for the ride? (oh, the dreadful puns... LOL) Let's see where this takes us. I would usually start a process like this with a detailed plan of action but not this time. I just want us to start from where we are and then work together until we get to where we end up. No pressure, no stress. So, just a bit of organisation stuff up front. Tonight I'm going to post the first question(s) I have for you and whoever posts their response before 8pm UK time tomorrow evening (ie Friday eve) is officially 'accepted' and we'll move forward from there. There's not going to be any kind of evaluation - that's not the reason for doing things this way. It's just a question of keeping to a manageable number and, most of all, having a group of us who are roughly at the same point in the process. OK? We're going to be working to a fairly short timescale so what I would like you to do is to focus on the Cracker... that one thing where you think 'ah, if I could just crack THIS, it would really help me move forward' and then I would like you to describe the last time you had a problem because of the 'Cracker'. I would really like to you to describe what happened and then to describe what you felt, thought and did as a consequence. Fingers crossed! Here goes.....
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Post by Casper on Jun 19, 2008 21:41:27 GMT 1
Casper, I suspect the only issue is what we work on and how. Wendy, I'll sit and observe from the sidelines. Prior to my accident my confidence was soaring and I'm holding on to that feeling. For now at least anyway! xx
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Post by gilly on Jun 19, 2008 22:23:24 GMT 1
Wendy what a lovely thing to offer to do, thank you. I'd like to join in too if that's ok. I'm feeling a wobbly nervous wreck at the mo after barely riding for the last month, and hopefully over the next week I will be getting a few rides in and getting back to normal routine. This is perfect timing for me to crack he nerves that have sneaked back during my time off riding.
Thank you Wendy ;D
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Post by zack on Jun 19, 2008 22:40:42 GMT 1
Hi Wendy, I have pmd you about this, but I think the deal is to post it, so I will try, if this is the wrong way to go about it, then please let me know! And thanks, this is such a fabulous offer, what a great thing to do.
Ok, my cracker is travelling my horse. We had an incident when she fell over in the trailer when the mats slipped, and as I was already not very confident about towing, it was about the worst thing that I could have imagined happening, Next time I loaded her, she panicked so much she scrabbled up the side of the box and fell over repeatedly until I stopped, abandoned car and trailer and walked her home, vowing never to tow a horse again. So, having sold my beloved land rover, and being on the the verge of selling the trailer, I realised I might one day want to go somewhere with my horse again...I go to clinics and watch other people working with their horses, I go to shows and events and see other people entering, and the worst thing is, I have a young horse, who I dream of one day riding on the beach, and taking to a host of different things that we can enjoy together. So, i didnt sell my trailer, and thought I would have a go again.
A couple of weeks ago, with my trailer now adapted so that my horse can travel without a partition, I got my RA up to have a go at loading her. My horse was pretty good, I was a TOTAL wreck! Even before I had tried to load her, I opened the trailer, smelt the creosote, and felt a wave of terror and panic. Throughout the whole experience (we loaded her, closed the door, and although she did get a bit anxious and kicked the door once, my RA was convinced she has sussed it, and if we moved, she was relaxed enough to find her balance) I could barely breathe, was very tearful, and incredibly tense. I was thinking that I was being cruel to my horse, that I had inflicted suffering on her previously, and I was trying to do it again, what kind of selfish awful person am I? And I was also running through every possible dreadful situation that we might get ourselves into-what happens if she goes nuts, rears up and splits her head open (my horse has never reared); what happens is she goes nuts on the M5 and we have to pull over, and she is going crazy ad I have to let her out and she runs into the traffic and causes a pile up....So, I wouldnt even let me RA drive us forward a foot. Pathetic. She is supposed to be coming back to help me get to that stage, but I get anxious even thinking about it, I ride/drive past my trailer every day and am so cross and angry at myself. I see other women merrily towing their horses to places, and am eaten up with envy and anger at my own cowardice. This autumn I would like to start taking my baby horse to some things, and I would like to take my old mare to the beach before her arthritis is too bad-but at the moment, I cant even open the trailer without being pyhsically overcome with fear.
I am not sure if this is the kind of thing you mean at all, I know its not a riding issue, but it does affect how I feel about myself and my horses-like a big failure really!
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Post by em&ed on Jun 19, 2008 22:51:48 GMT 1
Hi Wendy, I guess I'll go first - unless I cross posts! I don't know how much detail you want - i usually go into FAR TOO MUCH detail, so I'll try not to this time... My problem I need to crack is hacking out. I have started hacking out again just recently after many great hacks last year, versus about 3 bad ones. I only remember the bad bits I hacked out tonight - 'short block' about 30 mins and as soon as I left work I started feeling nervous, which lasted the duration of the journey to the yard, bout 20 mins... All throughout the acts of getting changed out of work clothes into jods, bringing Eddie in, grooming him and tacking up i felt really wobbly, arguing with myself to stop it as I am going to ride anyway. (quick swig from hip flask ) One lady that was coming with us backed out as her horse spooked at the drain as she was walking her round, waiting for me, which made her nervous... So I took Eddie to the mounting block and he stood still while i mounted - he never used to, we used to argue every time, which did wind up my anxiety no end, but school work over winter seems to have helped that As soon as I am on, I feel fine and away we go.... I try to relax the whole time with a medium contact and legs on.... and deal with stuff as it happens - tonight we had a digger digging a trench, just out of sight until we got further along the drove and saw this metal monster in its full glory on the road. I decided to treat it as if it was just a tractor or other vehicle and he was fine, until the guy started scraping a big boulder along the road with it Eddie jumped a mile - he is very susceptible to noise especially if he cannot see it or it is sudden.... this was immediately followed by 2 german shepherds hurling themselves at the gate of the property next door Eddie shot fwd, i pulled him up after about 2 strides, as soon as he stopped I let the pressure off and relaxed - I felt fine no probs.... I also think i have superstition/ocd issues like neck strap being on a certain way, and other such nonsense that i probably wouldn't post in public for fear of sounding insane! Oh and we always go out in company; have not plucked up courage to go alone - but would like to...
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Post by em&ed on Jun 19, 2008 22:53:53 GMT 1
lol crossed posts! and also forgot to say Thanks to Wendy for this great idea x
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