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Post by iceberg on Apr 6, 2007 9:48:54 GMT 1
After I wrote my am I daft thread, I thought I would put this in here as a little ray of hope to all those like me who arent/wont/cant riding at the moment. I sat on Blue yesterday for the first time since october. It was great . I only walked around in the corral for maybe 4 minutes, so you wont see me at hickstead just yet but I felt sooo happy. That was a major step forward and today im going to do it again (with my friend holding me up mentally). I was nervous but not scared and as soon as I got off I wanted to get back on! But I thought small steps are best, and poor Blue would have been confused. He was brill, stood stock still, walked around like a donkey on a beach. For all those of you who are terrified like I was (am?) My trick was to not think about it at all, mounting was my major problem, so my friend diverted my attention as soon as I put my foot in the stirrup and before I knew it I was on board. My friend is brill by the way she never judges me, she has put up with tears, tantrums, joy, pain, you name it ,over the years with me and my horses, she is a star. Ive still got miles to go, but each journey starts with one step and Ive taken mine now so I hope that if anyone is like me and been watching enviously while their friends ride, wishing it was them, you will get there but in your own way and own time - if you want it badly enough. Wait until you time is right, Ive been thinking about getting on for a few weeks, but couldnt actually do it, but yesterday I felt in my heart that the time was right, and so I asked my friend for help. Im not afraid to ask for help if I need it, but lots of people are, so I would say go ahead and ask, your true friends will be delighted to help, and everyone comes away with a good feeling I will let you know how I get on later.
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Post by HFM on Apr 6, 2007 10:17:16 GMT 1
go you! well done....very big step in right direction, all the best for today
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Post by wozzer on Apr 6, 2007 14:01:42 GMT 1
I am sitting here with a huge grin on my face. Bet yours is bigger. Very, very pleased for you - well done ;D ;D xx
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Post by kya on Apr 6, 2007 17:23:44 GMT 1
Iceberg... we never doubted you, never. Fantastic stuff.
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Post by iceberg on Apr 6, 2007 18:01:48 GMT 1
Thankyou, I did get back on again today, but I have to say I was more nervous today than yesterday.
I know why, when K was tacking him up, as she did the girth up the final hole he threw his head up and jumped back a step. Its not pain, its rememberd pain, as she said, she had pulled too hard on the girth (getting a porky pig with no work) instead of going gently. Once girth is done up he was fine, but it started my nerves off. She walked him around and got on. He never moved, and she went for a ride down the lane, did some trotting and then came back. I got on and he was fine, stood like a old ned, but having seen him throw his head up like that did set my nerves off.
But on the positive side I stayed on him for longer and made myself sit with no stirrups or reins, (to prove to myself he WONT do anything) and of course he didnt.
So although I was all of a quiver, i achieved my goal for today and I think now I should tack him up each day, to build my confidence and his, that there is nothing to worry about.
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Post by wozzer on Apr 6, 2007 20:21:14 GMT 1
Good on ya girl ;D
Just go at your own pace. Hope that one day soon you will tack up and forget to be nervous. That's what happened to me. xx
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Post by kya on Apr 6, 2007 20:48:28 GMT 1
I tend to do that to myself too Iceberg... decide it's a cumulative thing.. horse has thrown up head- it means something.... he's going to act up today. Often it's not true, and the horse has moved on seconds later and we are still dwelling on it. You are doing brilliantly well.
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Post by angblue on Apr 6, 2007 22:10:17 GMT 1
Firstly well done thats fantastic news ;D Take it one baby step at a time & you'll get there in no time at all! I used to be the same scrutinizing every little detail "oh no he looked at me funny......I'm gonna get bucked off" of course he never did! Whilst it is good to be aware of how your horse is feeling, I took it too far but somewhere down the line I relaxed & now he practically sleeps when tacking up LOL
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Post by Casper on Apr 7, 2007 4:17:49 GMT 1
That is absolutely fantastic Iceberg - well done you. You should be sooooo proud of yourself, you really should x
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Post by iceberg on Apr 7, 2007 9:36:04 GMT 1
Thankyou everyone, I do feel pleased, but slightly worried about how deep my fears are, its now obvious to me that this really isnt going to be an overnight fix, so I will just carry on as I am for the time being. Tiny steps!!
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Post by steff on Apr 7, 2007 13:57:49 GMT 1
Fabudabulous! Well done ;D You must be so proud of yourself!
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Post by alfie on Apr 7, 2007 17:30:59 GMT 1
You go girl ;D, really pleased for you, get your foundations rock solid and your building will stand for years (if you know what i mean). dosn't matter how long it takes as long as your happy . well done ;D
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Post by em&ed on Apr 8, 2007 12:36:12 GMT 1
Well Done Iceberg - that's fab!! but I know what you mean about "He did this...or that... so he's going to play up..." That's how I feel too... and it's silly really, but it can make you soooo nervous... lol angblue - when "he looked at you funny..." I have also thought that.... god it sounds bizarre that the slightest thing can make you worry so much... but anyway - three cheers for Iceberg ;D
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Post by iceberg on Apr 8, 2007 14:45:50 GMT 1
Thankyou for your replies, I gave blue the day off yesterday, cos I got a txt from my friend yesterday morning. She said he was flat out in the field, too tired to get up when she went over to check him, she said im a cruel mummy and have worn him out . Ridden twice in two days, for 1/2 an hour, poor overworked animal, ;D. I probably wont be able to catch him later when I go down. Might have a sit on him today, we will see, might just tack him up and leave it at that. At least I can plan to do this without worrying now. But, if he 'looks at me funny' ........................ ;D ;D ;D
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Post by spruce on Apr 10, 2007 12:25:34 GMT 1
Well done!! That is fantastic. I know exactly how you must be feeling. In Jan 06 I couldn't even get on my horse - I cried even thinking about it. I had a fab RA out but burst into tears when he suggested I got on my boy. I felt awful.
I just took small steps and did what I felt comfortable with, worked with my horse to build up our relationship and now I'm out there cantering him in fields!! Two things I swore I'd never do. I still have wobbles though but thats just part of being human.
Just take it slowly and do what you're happy with. You'll get there.
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