Feel so guilty

[gill]

I had my cat put to sleep yesterday and now I feel so bad and cant stop crying. I have had Amy from 6 wks old and she had just turned 20 yrs old. She could eat for england but was soooo thin. I know I did the right thing but I miss her so much and feel terribly guilty, it was the way she looked at me when I said goodbye to her , she then went to sleep and then the final part when she passed over. Took her home and buried her and have today planted a nice shrub on her grave, but the heavy feeling I have is awful. Sorry for babbling on !!!

[LisaM]

Sorry to hear this Gill.. But you did the best thing seriously. At my Mum and Dad's I have an old persian, she's 18 and is fine at the mo *touching wood* but when the time comes where she loses weight or is in pain etc she will be pts. I can imagine your pain. x
Amy will thank you for making the right decison.

RIP Amy x sleep well.

[karen]

aww gill it is so hard. I adore my boys and would never forgive myself if anything ever happened to them. My orion once disappeared for half a day and i thought i would die without him (you should've seen the state my hubby was in when we thought we'd lost him!). It is awful to lose something you adore so much and there is such a gap-remember you spend more time with pets at home than you do family or anyone else, but give yourself time and remember the greatest gift you can give a cat is an easy death. Its a choice we can make but we feel guilty because it was our choice not theirs. She without you knowing would have told you she was ready and probably helped you make your decision without you realising it (they are clever like that!) i am sure she wherever she is, she's now fat and sprightly and terrorising another bunch of dearly beloved pets who have passed over in the same day, probably hiding behind something crouched down low and with a twitchy tail picture those naughty eyes and naughty pointy forward whiskers and keep that thought not the one of goodbye. You love her and that's something you should never feel guilty about

hope it eases soon

karenxxx

[gill]

Thankyou Lisa m and Karen I am now sobbing my heart out with your kind words as not everybody understands what I am feeling but I truly think both of you do. Thankyou

[LisaM]

((0)) hugs Gill... a good sob will help. Anytime you need a cry just let it be. Don't harbour away your grief. Any people in your life who may tell you to 'get over it' need to be avoided right now as it takes time; those who think a day or two will fix it have never loved hard enough x best wishes

[fi]

dont feel guilty you definitly did the right thing, its a very hard thing to have to do , my cat has just turned into a teenager and i hope he lives till 20 , try and think what a wonderful life she had , and i am sure karen is right she will be somewhere sunbathing and relaxing like cats do,

[berylsmum]

My thought are with you. When I had to have my first cat put down a few years ago I was totally distraught so completely understand where you are coming from. The thing to hold onto is remembering that 20 happy years but still had the courage to do the most selfless thing and help her go with dignity. I will never forget the way Lucy looked at me in the few moments before she slipped away, but at least you know she didn't suffer it is a very peaceful end.
Best wishes

[sulasmum]

I too know just how you feel I went through the same thing with my lovely female cat. Please dont blame yourself you have done the kindest thing possible. Hugs to you

[tobyh]

Oh Gill big hugs for you, I do know exactly how you are feeling at the moment I have a terrible hollow feeling in the pit of my stomach and burst into tears every few hours. It is natural to grieve you did the best for her, it is hard, and no one can make it easier for you and you gave her the best gift we can give our beloved pets, but I hold on to the fact that time will heal the pain and I can smile at memories again rather than look at photos and dissolve into tears.

Take care and give yourself time you are a selfless person by your kind actions.

[gwenoakes]

Gill you have nothing to feel guilty about. A lot of cats dont even see their teens for one reason or another. You did the only thing you could for her and it took enormous courage. You loved and cared for her. A true animal lover does the very best for their animal including unfortunately pts which is the greatest thing you could ever do. She would cross over to Rainbow Bridge with dignity and love.

[kas]

Hi Gill, I'm just going to take a risk here and tell you the impressions I am getting. I hope that is OK because I don't normally AC much at all, even if asked.
Tiny cat (could be physically or maybe she was like a tiny kitten in her mind - hang on, maybe she was your tiny cat?)
I see her neat, neatly curled, you know like when the tail is right round and they make a little ball. Just feel that you would look at her and smile because she is so neatly tucked in.
I don't feel she needs anything now, she has been given everything she needs.
Animals don't have the same feelings about death as we do, it is part of the natural order of things. You shouldn't feel bad, you helped her when she needed it and all is OK with her now. That is the best any of us can do for them.
Take care Gill xx

[Ann NF]

Don`t feel guilty Gill. Your lovely cat didn`t suffer and grow weak and ill. You stepped in to make sure that she ended her life with dignity and that is the most loving thing you could ever have done. Look after yourself and allow the grieving to happen. Lots of us know how it feels and are with you.
Annx

[Lorraine L]

Thinking of you Gill. Big hugs for a difficult time for you.
x

[gem]

Oh I know just how you feel, my cat was about 20 when we had her put to sleep, she was fine when I was home but when I was at uni she went down hill, went very thin and started fitting. I would come home and she would perk up, so I would say she was fine, in the end even when Perky she wasnt right so we had her put to sleep, it was awful and I thought I would never get over it, I will always think of her. Be thankful she had you to let her go

[LisaM]

KAS.. I hope gill has read your post. x It made me tingle because if Amy were my cat I would want to know that she's safe and curled up. I can just imagine her purring her head off too x