What a total cow - some people have a nerve!!!!

[gem]

ARGH!! I just want to come on here and vent my total frustration about how you can see a person to be one thing and have it turn out they are something else!

I used to be really good friends with a lady at my yard she had a problem horse so did I, she evented so did I we clicked and got along really well, she gave me a key to her house and we became great friends, I looked after her son became his godmother and we looked after our horses kind of as one.

We were supposed to be buying a box together, went liked it put a deposit on it, she then didnt want it, fine but she took the loss of the deposit as I still wanted it.

Early this year my OH had a bit of a breakdown as Im sure some of you remember, everyone was supportive except her who although supposed to be coming on holiday with us didnt as she decided my OH wasnt fit to be around her son so she didnt come, not only did she not come but she told my YO stuff I had told her in confidence.

Fine we fell out but we made up and carried on, then she said that my dog chewed her headcollars, didnt come to me but reported it to the yard owner so my dog was banned, thats fine if I had ever let him off the lead but I didnt as he runs off so I fail to see how it could have been him, we fell out despite my buying her two new headcollars despite not thinking it could have been my dog.

Again fall out but I make the peace

Next she decides that no one on the yard is competent to look after their horses and she is moving off the yard, fine people move but she then stopped coming down at all so her horse missed two shoeings and was cripplingly lame, I gave her a bit of a sharp word she gets her shod.

Next she decides she wants to put her on loan, so muggins here places adverts on the net which I pay for as she is skint, I talk to people put loads off as they arent suitable, find a few she doesnt bother to ride her before hand and horse goes crap, thats my fault clearly!!

Now during this time she has never poo picked our field, nor has she done anything with her yearling who is sitting in the field with over grown feet.

THEN she sends me a snotty text demanding her door key back which is fine, however she wants it that night despite the fact I've already been to the yard that day and I live a good way from the yard, I tell her I cant do it she gets arsy and wants it by 7am next day, i intentionally dont go down till evening so she is furious and practically accuses me of stealing a book I borrowed.

Oh also when I had Holly she was coming with free rubber matting however madam wanted it so she bought it for £100 last week she tried to sell it to me for £200 twice what she paid! (she didnt buy it off me but off her last owner)

Her horse has been sent to a college now for 12 months so she can be got fit to sell

At this point ive had enough so as we shared a tack room and a feed room I tell her I will move my stuff, she says theres no need I feel there is, I move all my stuff into one and all of hers into the other, Im so furious after being accused of theft that I change the lock so she cant go rummaging through my stuff.

She now has told yard owner she doesnt want to be on the yard at the same time as me, and as we have the same farrier who is due tomorrow, she has asked the farrier to ring her once he's done mine and Im gone so she can come and get the foal trimmed after 6months of not bothering and her feet being horribly overgrown. I wanted to ride after my girls had been shod but the yard owner has requested that I leave after shoeing so its not uncomfortable for HER!!!

I am beyong furious, I know this is long but its this or run her over and then back up to check I didnt miss!!!!!

[gwenoakes]

Oh Gem. What a buggar! Know where you are coming from though, had same trouble (slightly different version) at our yard. I had word with YO myself and explained calmly what had happened the whole saga and she was unaware of 90% of it. Do you think YO would listen to you if you went and talked to her? I really didnt think ours would when I approached her, but she had a word with the other livery and everything calmed down. Has this other livery got a record for this sort of thing do you know? The one on our yard had. Wish you all the luck in the world and can appreciate how frustrating this sort of situation can be. X

[VictoriaA]

god I'd be absolutely furious too! I am soooooo glad I keep my 2 at home! being asked to leave the yard after the shoeing is unacceptible in my opinion. Surely you can leave the yard by being out riding? Tack up quick and leg it! We all pay a lot of money to keep our horses - its supposed to be a pleasurable thing!
Some people seem to be born trouble makers. Do what you are doing and just avoid/ignore her from now on, being polite if you paths cross at all but make no efforts to appease her, you've done more than enough!
Chin up, deep breaths, you are a better person than she is by far

[gem]

Thanks, YO thinks its funny! She's leaving as soon as she finds somewhere for the yearling to be dumped so its only a month to grit my teeth and bare it. I told the Yo it would be his loss if I have to leave as I wouldnt be staying on after that, Ive moved my shoeing till Monday so that the problem is removed.

I have also asked YO to move her yearling out of the field as I want to bring my two in at night and I cant cause of the yearling as she's be on her own, she also doesnt poo pick and June and I both do so Im fed up of clearing up after her.

[marywelsh]

gem this is why i miss having my own field
i hate livery yards to much bitching, at least you only have a month to go and like you say just grit your teeth but it seems like the yo is taking her side when she is in the wrong
on my yard two people, booked their holidays and then assumed i would look after their horses and when i said no they were saying they might have to cancel their holidays and basically it was my fault, i was fuming i now keep myself to myself and only ride out with the yo (who is a good friend) as they also use to bicker who was riding out with who and to be quite honest i can,t be bothered with it

[berylsmum]

I'd be utterly furious, at least she is moving. I wonder how she would feel if you turned around and said you feel uncomfortable when she is there and demand she leaves when you want to come up?

[gill]

I would have refused to leave the yard after farrier had done yours. You have every right to be there !!! That is just not acceptable.

[Lucymj]

I am with gill on this one! YO has no right to demand you leave yard - you are a paying customer after all! I would stay there just to prove a point.

I also would be tempted to lamp both YO for being ridiculous and this woman for being a b**ch!

[gem]

Oh believe me I am very tempted to lamp her, instead I have moved my shoeing to Monday and told my farrier I dont want to be shod at the same time as her, I understand this may be a problem for him and if he cant do it I will sadly change to another farrier.

He said its fine and is doing me on Monday, although ill know by the foals feet whether he's done boots or not tomorrow.

It is complicated as she is very good friends with the best friend of Hollys actual owner, and if she gets nasty she could get Holly taken away and I couldnt bear that, have been racking my brains to find a way to get the money to buy holly so im free of her and can lamp her all I want

[Val (Toons&co)]

Gem, just saw your post on my thread and looked for this one. This person is a nasty piece of work, taking advantage as much as she can until it no longer suits her really. I understand your worries. I'm not too sure who Holly belongs to (do you have her on loan or something? Sorry if you already explained) but it would seem that the best thing to do is to avoid this person until she moves in order to keep things 'polite'. I know you'd like to lamp her but that would only aggravate things for you and your horse as she could try and take revenge the worst way.

I've been in a similar situation with my best friend although she did have the excuse of very bad health and we are still friends. We were supposed to buy a yard together and she bought my mare's foal but she chickened out when it was time to get a mortgage and then became too ill to come and see her foal. At least now, I have Spirit's papers signed to my name so I'm no longer having nightmares that she'll come and take him away from me. We're talking about renting together again and guess who's putting the ads. and visiting for the moment? But I know she could drop out and no longer trust her so I won't get the shock I did the first time. Still can't help but care for her tho.

[gem]

Hollys ownership is weird, She has been given to me for life but provided I never sell her or move without telling her, she was going to be put down as she was unstoppable and I said ill have her, as I was friends with said psyco it was allowed. Now I know that she could be taken away at any time as I dont have her passport and have no legal standing, all said psyco has to do is say something and they'd take Holly back and dump her somewhere.

I had agreed to buy her in installments and then Andy proposed and went for career satisfaction and thats going rather slowly, she is also still trying to decide an amount. Ive met her owner once when we collected another horse from box rest, she's never visited where I am she has never once visited holly or called me, I call her from time to time to keep her updated but thats it

[gem]

Ps Be careful Val, Ive had my fingers burned well and truely and wouldnt recommend it!

[gem]

And now to top it all off my farrier has moved her shoeing to the same day as mine!!!! and i have been again asked would you please leave straight after!!! bitch, cow miserable excuse for a human fucker!!!!

[gem]

this self editing is great I can swear as much as I want and it doesnt come up!!

[Val (Toons&co)]

LOL Gem (about the self editing). At least your farrier is coming (long story but after 2 weeks delay my farrier stood me up yesterday and I'm - again - on the look out for another one). You'll just have to try and ignore her as much as possible - it is going to be hard and I do hope it doens't turn nasty. Poor you.

I am being careful, gem, as much as possible.