|
Post by rosemaryhannah on Jul 3, 2014 9:32:27 GMT 1
It is very hard for small companies, but sometimes large ones are mean. eg, my daughter wanted to take, as holiday, a half day to go and see her daughter's nativity play. She is senior in a large company and often, often takes home work at the weekends. She was refused permission. How mean is that? (Her husband's company let him go but ...)
|
|
|
Post by lisap on Jul 4, 2014 21:09:26 GMT 1
Another child-free person here. CM you say you have a very well-paid job. Does it pay more than your OH's? I was in that position before going self-employed, my monthly income was then (17 years ago) still more than my OH earns today. Had we had children, it would have been the sensible thing for him to stay at home with them. Is this a possibility for you? If it is you who wishes to be a SAHM regardless of who earns the most, then are you not in danger of wanting to have your cake and eat it? Why shouldn't men be given the same choice as women to stay at home with their children? Of course, I don't know your personal circumstances, and it might be that OH doesn't want to give up working either, in which case perhaps more discussion regarding how you both feel about the requirement or not for children to have a parent full time at home in the early years?
|
|
|
Post by spanisheyes on Jul 6, 2014 10:14:40 GMT 1
I never earned as much as my husband so Im happy to be a stay at home mum. To be honest it would make me depressed to have to leave my daughter in nursery to go back to work. She is nearly 12 months old and I know Im very lucky that I dont have to go back to work. The way I look at it she will only be young once, the first year has flown and in a few more she will be at school. We take the dog for a walk every day and have done since she was born. Yesterday as we were strolling along next to the hay meadows watching the swallows swoop and dive I thought "this is probably the best time of my life". I even came over in goosebumps I cant describe the feeling properly Take happiness, life is short.
|
|
companymagic
Grand Prix Poster
Horses are for life not just for riding....
Posts: 1,739
|
Post by companymagic on Jul 6, 2014 13:42:27 GMT 1
Thank you all for your replies and help.
Hubby and I have agreed that I can tell well paid job to do one with the understanding that if the chips are down I look for another job. My pt job will cover the money for the ponies and hubby just wants me to be happy. He even said if they do agree to flexible working to still leave as he doesn't want me working for a company that care so little. So that's it, come the end if this month I will be giving my notice after 13 years with them. I will just be a children's Music and play session leader self employed going forward. We will be over 2k a month worse off but if we have managed so far I think we will be fine. And if the worst comes to the worst I will have to get another job with more hours or part with my ponies. So fingers crossed it works. Thanks again all. X x
|
|
|
Post by lizpurlo on Jul 6, 2014 20:51:14 GMT 1
CM, that's wonderful, that sounds like a great plan. And I'm so glad that your OH is being so understanding now. All the very best for your new self-employed venture - sounds good to me!
|
|
|
Post by antares on Jul 7, 2014 12:23:11 GMT 1
Wonderful Good luck
|
|
wills
Grand Prix Poster
Posts: 4,657
|
Post by wills on Jul 7, 2014 22:15:57 GMT 1
Take happiness, life is short. So very very true. I'm glad you have worked something out CM, it's been interesting reading everyones views and opinions on this I hope everything works out for you and I'm sure it will. xx
|
|
|
Post by portiabuzz on Jul 8, 2014 10:54:51 GMT 1
fingers crossed, he sounds very supportive and just what you need xx
|
|