Post by sophie666 on Mar 11, 2014 23:22:23 GMT 1
Some of you may think I'm stupid for writing this and the answer to my problem is obvious, but think I just need some support.
My best friend of 5 years is male and we have always got on amazingly well. We used to spend all our free time around work at the horses together and when we weren't there we text all the time. Just loved spending time with him and we had so much in common. He eventually told someone I knew that he loved me and we tried a relationship. However it just didn't feel right to me. It was almost like I was going out with a brother rather then a boyfriend and I had to break it off. I just didn't want him in that way. I felt awful but couldn't pretend and it broke his heart.
We went though some bad times after he had some space and then I tried to get him to talk to me again. But we came through and are good friends again now.
I've just spent some time with him today for the first time in ages and it was great. Loved seeing him, feel comfortable with him, hes great with my horses, we could chat all day. Hes not bad looking either. I just don't understand why he can't be what I want. Hes everything I do and should want, and he really loves me. So why don't I?! I'm in my 30's and can't say I'm unhappy being single, I quite like it to be honest. A relationship would be nice, but if I don't have one I'm not too bothered. He would do anything for me, hes secure, we get on, have loads in common and sometimes I think why don't I just grow up and have a relationship with him. A lot of women would kill to have a guy like this. Am I just being too picky and watched too many romantic films thinking love should be something that is amazing? Is love actually like this or is it just a comfy, we get on well, and fall into a steady everyday relationship straight away.
I bet I sound like an idiot. I just keep thinking that maybe I am missing out on something with him and the chance to have a guy that really loves me. Should I just be greatful for that and stop thinking I should have more? Hes such a nice person, the idea of trying anything with him again and then it not working and hurting him all over again is just not right. I love him definitely but I don't think its the way he needs and I couldn't be with him and not love him the way he deserves, it just wouldn't be right. So why am I always questioning myself?!
I hope this makes sense, I'm just really confused.
My best friend of 5 years is male and we have always got on amazingly well. We used to spend all our free time around work at the horses together and when we weren't there we text all the time. Just loved spending time with him and we had so much in common. He eventually told someone I knew that he loved me and we tried a relationship. However it just didn't feel right to me. It was almost like I was going out with a brother rather then a boyfriend and I had to break it off. I just didn't want him in that way. I felt awful but couldn't pretend and it broke his heart.
We went though some bad times after he had some space and then I tried to get him to talk to me again. But we came through and are good friends again now.
I've just spent some time with him today for the first time in ages and it was great. Loved seeing him, feel comfortable with him, hes great with my horses, we could chat all day. Hes not bad looking either. I just don't understand why he can't be what I want. Hes everything I do and should want, and he really loves me. So why don't I?! I'm in my 30's and can't say I'm unhappy being single, I quite like it to be honest. A relationship would be nice, but if I don't have one I'm not too bothered. He would do anything for me, hes secure, we get on, have loads in common and sometimes I think why don't I just grow up and have a relationship with him. A lot of women would kill to have a guy like this. Am I just being too picky and watched too many romantic films thinking love should be something that is amazing? Is love actually like this or is it just a comfy, we get on well, and fall into a steady everyday relationship straight away.
I bet I sound like an idiot. I just keep thinking that maybe I am missing out on something with him and the chance to have a guy that really loves me. Should I just be greatful for that and stop thinking I should have more? Hes such a nice person, the idea of trying anything with him again and then it not working and hurting him all over again is just not right. I love him definitely but I don't think its the way he needs and I couldn't be with him and not love him the way he deserves, it just wouldn't be right. So why am I always questioning myself?!
I hope this makes sense, I'm just really confused.