heidi
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Post by heidi on Mar 1, 2014 23:15:34 GMT 1
You are definitely not alone Chantrelle! I have to confess that I only have my animal mad friends on my Facebook newsfeed and the ones that only ever post photo's of children etc, I just "visit" once in a blue moon!
I have only ever wanted animals, not children!
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Post by arabiangem on Mar 1, 2014 23:28:12 GMT 1
I'm another of the childfree and happy with my choice brigade. At 36, I am FINALLY at stage where I love all aspects of my life: my job, my part-time MA, my riding and running and social life, and I really don't want to change any of that for the foreseeable. And it would have to change, which at the moment isn't an option for me. It had caused problems with relationships in the past, so for now, I am single until I meet someone who is happy to be childfree too!!!
I do find it a little sad though that some of you aren't interested in the offspring of your friends and families. I am a doting aunt and honorary aunt to the children of my closest friends. I love them all dearly and love to see how they are doing, in the same way that my friends and family love (or at least tolerate!) my constant talk/postings about Marjorie. We all have our passions - the things that get us out of bed in the morning. It just so happens that for us, it's our furries, for them it's their children. Rejecting my gorgeous, funny, clever niece would be a rejection of my beloved sister and her life choices.
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Post by jennyb on Mar 2, 2014 9:22:48 GMT 1
Agree with arabiangem. I have two gorgeous godchildren, and am very sad to say that I am the ONLY one of their godparents who send them birthday and Christmas cards and presents. The others, including my ex-husband, don't bother with them! They are really wonderful children, my friend has done a great job bringing them up.
I'm 35 and expecting my first child, my fiancé and I have been together for two years and bizarrely, we both thought we'd like children one day, both had long previous marriages but didn't want kids with our respective exes. It was as if we both just knew they were the wrong people for us, deep down. He mentioned having kids not long after we met and I was very shocked! But we are both very excited. I'm nervous about the life changes it will bring to me, I've always been independent and paid for everything myself and of course that will now change, but he's very supportive and luckily we can pay the bills on his earnings, so I can enjoy being a mum for a few years. Whilst it's a daunting thing, I sat back and thought "I have the opportunity to have kids with this wonderful man - would I be sad later in life if I didn't take this opportunity and then found if left it too late" and it was a very strong yes. So for me it's the right thing to do, but it's only now at this stage in my life that I have felt that. It wasn't right for me earlier on and I'm glad I didn't do it earlier when it wouldn't have been right for me.
It's a personal thing, I've always tried to be tolerant of people talking about their kids previously though as people are tolerant of me wittering on about Gazdag!
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Post by lizpurlo on Mar 2, 2014 13:58:02 GMT 1
Arabiangem, I haven't any family or friends nearby with small children or babies, so never have any contact with them. But I do LOVE seeing the pictures on here of DGers' new babies - I especially love to see the joy which shines out of these pics, it invariably makes me smile too! Which is what it's all about, really. Keep posting them guys, please!
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Post by chantrelle on Mar 2, 2014 19:31:12 GMT 1
I like some children lol. My friend has a daughter who I absolutely adore (she is 9 this year) when she was a baby I used to always look after her when my friend was riding etc. I'm happy for my friends when they have children etc but I just find it hard to maintain enthusiasm when they start shoving it down my throat with comments on how its the best time of their lives when they know I don't want them. Best time of your life is it? I'm sure there are some amazing times and yes, part of me is jealous of that BUT I'm happy knowing I can have lie ins at the weekends, go on holidays when I want (that don't cost a bomb) and can spend my money on things for me. That's a pretty good part of my life and I wouldn't sacrifice that. Talking it through with everyone here has really helped. I have realised my feelings and accept them as right for me and you know what? That's a great feeling. X
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Post by jackiedo on Mar 7, 2014 19:37:33 GMT 1
I only had my daughter as the football was cancelled and I could not find anything else to do. She was born after 3 miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy and I was advised by my consultant that it was doubtful I would have any children. During this time I was also told "hurry up" etc, and I just did not feel like divulging my true emotions to anyone. You do not need to decide forever. You have the right to change your mind. People will want to share their baby stories. It is your life - live it as you wish
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