wills
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Post by wills on Dec 12, 2011 22:01:55 GMT 1
Was expecting the worst when i read the title. Very brave decision you have made Anne. Im wishing you the best of luck for the future, and to Derek,Jo and Lady. ((hugs)) x
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joflo
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Post by joflo on Dec 13, 2011 9:41:37 GMT 1
A positive outcome from a very difficult situation. Hugs all round x
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Post by nich on Dec 13, 2011 10:00:35 GMT 1
lucky Lady!! great to hear.
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Post by wabuska on Dec 13, 2011 10:08:06 GMT 1
Well, she couldn't have gone to better hands. I know that must be a comfort. All the best for this really difficult moment in your life. XX
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Post by Anne_Oxfordshire on Dec 13, 2011 10:15:44 GMT 1
Thank you so much everyone and Derek for the update on Lady. I'm glad that she is settling in well and it made me smile that she is trying to befriend Chloe - told you that would be her way of making sure she's always at the top of the herd! ;D Personally, although I'm trying to tell myself I did the right thing, I can't help feeling a big sense of failure, especially because I don't really know how or why everything went so wrong, when it had been going so well previously. It makes me very nervous of getting another horse, because how can I make sure the same thing doesn't happen again? The interesting thing which has happened to me though, is I've already started seeing horses in a different way. I was walking my dog last week and noticed some horses in a field. Before I would have just glanced at them and walked on, but now that I'm deprived of horsey contact I went over to the gate and stood and chatted to a fluffy black foal and a lovely bay mare. They were so gentle and friendly and I really noticed and appreciated little things about them like their soft noses and their deep kind brown eyes. Even though they were shaggy and dirty and not very well kept, they looked so beautiful to me, whereas before I would just have dismissed them and walked on past with barely a glance. It was a really nice moment and interesting how this change in attitude has happened to me already. Thanks to those people for offering me to come and see your horses! I may well take you up on that!
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Post by wills on Dec 13, 2011 21:36:51 GMT 1
Personally, although I'm trying to tell myself I did the right thing, I can't help feeling a big sense of failure, especially because I don't really know how or why everything went so wrong, when it had been going so well previously. It makes me very nervous of getting another horse, because how can I make sure the same thing doesn't happen again? I have been in a similar situation, with a youngsters. I KNEW i was capable of bringing her on, but when things started to go wrong i also didn't know how or why. Medically everything was ruled out and I eventually had to make the hard decision to let her go. I felt like a huge failure and cried every day for about a month . That was 5/6 years ago now and my little lady is extremely settled and happy in her new home and had a foaly this year. I can now accept that "something" just wasn't there. As for me, i took a few months out. Rode friends horses and just helped out around the yard. About 6 months later i was offered a horse on loan, i went from a 4 year old to a 20 year old ex eventer ;D he was obviously complete opposite and not what i was wanting but we ended up having a wonderful 3 years togethere and i learnt so so much from him. I'm sure hen he time is right another equine will find you.
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