Caroline
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Post by Caroline on Dec 29, 2010 16:09:30 GMT 1
I can relate! I have some OCD issues, particularly relating to locks, closures and security. I used to have to check the catches on my rabbit hutch about 20 times a night. You can imagine what that can turn into with horses! When I got a field sharer, I lived in constant fear that he wasn't going to tie and chain the gate up the way I like it done. I would arrive at the ranch and find the gate tied in the wrong way! Agh! But I realised I was going to have to trust that this man, who has been on the planet and a horse owner for many many years longer than me, is probably capable of securely tying a gate. Ironically, the thing that finally led to their escape through the gate was when the horses leaned on the fence post and pushed the whole thing down. So all that worrying about ropes and chains was for nothing - compared to the power of a slightly determined horse! Try not to worry too much. Speak to her about issues of safety and cost, but try not to upset yourself over things that deep down you know you don't need to get upset over.
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Post by tikkatonks on Dec 29, 2010 19:15:07 GMT 1
You are not the only one, I hate it when people 'help' and it ends up not being how I wanted it and twice as much work to correct. Someone helped with filling hay nets the other day. The end result was that I had to use 2 haynets per horse so my weeks worth of haynets only lasted half the week and I had to refill them mid week when I am tight for time.
It sounds ungrateful but I always refuse when people offer to help me bring my horses in from the field as they are 2 big boisterous horses and i have to lead them together in the dark so I always insist that they behave politely and I don't want to spend a week undoing the damage someone 'helping' can cause. Its hard to explain this to people without insulting them.
I think people's advice to kindly explain that it makes you stressed and why is really sensible and hopefully they will understand.
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Post by HolsBols on Dec 29, 2010 19:23:25 GMT 1
i think confess to ur ocd, tell her how lovely it is for her to help you but u just dont feel able to deal with it!!
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