Post by sar24 on Dec 28, 2015 16:02:13 GMT 1
Hi all, I am in the middle of reading Perfect Confidence and have come here for ... well to express my fears I guess!
Ok so potted history been around ponies/horses since the age of 4, I am now a lot older!!! Competed up till I was 16ish then had happy hackers with the occasional visit to a show. About 15 years ago I had an ex racer who was my soul mate, sadly lost him due to an accident (never forgiven myself for this!) and since then confidence has been an issue. Have ridden (though not regularly since this) and I feel that I am getting worse (in terms of nervousness) instead of better.
Ok to present day. I have a new pony (14.1) and I am having help with him in the form of our wonderful local RA. My problem is this, I am literally terrified of the new pony I called in help as he was having trouble with settling in and was acting in an "aggressive" (I use the term loosely) towards people, he was charging at us and generally making me move as fast as possible out of his way! He was not like this when I viewed him and I know the seller well enough to know she would not lie. I am re reading perfect confidence (told you I had long standing confidence issues ) and I have been following all the advice however I am still really (really really really) nervous of the new pony!!! I am ok (ish) with the others (we have 5 as my daughter also rides) but really need to lose the nerves. I have not even thought about riding as at the moment it is too much to even handle the ponies!!!
I guess I am asking you all for any tips/suggestions or anything that might help me. The RA is coming out tomorrow and I will be sharing all of this with her but would also welcome any advice from you guys
Thanking you in advance
Sarah xxxx
Ok so potted history been around ponies/horses since the age of 4, I am now a lot older!!! Competed up till I was 16ish then had happy hackers with the occasional visit to a show. About 15 years ago I had an ex racer who was my soul mate, sadly lost him due to an accident (never forgiven myself for this!) and since then confidence has been an issue. Have ridden (though not regularly since this) and I feel that I am getting worse (in terms of nervousness) instead of better.
Ok to present day. I have a new pony (14.1) and I am having help with him in the form of our wonderful local RA. My problem is this, I am literally terrified of the new pony I called in help as he was having trouble with settling in and was acting in an "aggressive" (I use the term loosely) towards people, he was charging at us and generally making me move as fast as possible out of his way! He was not like this when I viewed him and I know the seller well enough to know she would not lie. I am re reading perfect confidence (told you I had long standing confidence issues ) and I have been following all the advice however I am still really (really really really) nervous of the new pony!!! I am ok (ish) with the others (we have 5 as my daughter also rides) but really need to lose the nerves. I have not even thought about riding as at the moment it is too much to even handle the ponies!!!
I guess I am asking you all for any tips/suggestions or anything that might help me. The RA is coming out tomorrow and I will be sharing all of this with her but would also welcome any advice from you guys
Thanking you in advance
Sarah xxxx