Post by holi on Feb 10, 2015 19:05:21 GMT 1
Oh it's my mother- she would try the patience of a saint!! Nothing is right ,ever - no one treats her right, she moans non stop, tries to play family members off against each other and now wants to die. She's been like this for years - very high maintenance with her demands and multiple ailments. Eventually she went into a care home about 18 months ago as she became a nightmare at home phoning my sister all the hours day and night demanding that she bought things for her.
Her behaviour there deteriorated and she ended up in hospital with an infection and they wouldn't have her back. There she went cold turkey, coming off the enormous amounts of drugs the GPs had given her to help her sleep, reduce her anxieties, pain - she was at rtf he surgery daily demanding more. From the hospital we found another home which she didn't like either. Staff were against her, room was wrong, other people there too posh (!), boring, didn't like her. Eventually there her behaviour deteriorated again so badly she tried to self harm, screaming at people, throwing things and once again asked to leave (my brother-in-law says she must be the only OAP with two ASBOs!). Anyway now she is on yet another mass of sedation but appears relatively normal in a home where the people have,well, quite challenging behaviours. Now she hates it, staff are being horrible to her,no one likes her, she wishes she was dead, family are ignoring her(we all phone daily and she has loads of visitors) but it's not enough. My sister and I have reached the end of our tethers - both of us have had awful issues all our lives as a result of how she has treated us - we have never been good enough. She's one seriously mixed up lady but at 87 what can we do?? My sister swings between guilt and depression over it and I get angry but every day she drags us down. Sorry to be so long winded but just had her on the phone for yet another half an hour and it's so tough. Now it's the night staff didn't give her her meds on purpose and all other rubbish but she won't let me say anything so we ended up having an argument! Goodness what a mess
Her behaviour there deteriorated and she ended up in hospital with an infection and they wouldn't have her back. There she went cold turkey, coming off the enormous amounts of drugs the GPs had given her to help her sleep, reduce her anxieties, pain - she was at rtf he surgery daily demanding more. From the hospital we found another home which she didn't like either. Staff were against her, room was wrong, other people there too posh (!), boring, didn't like her. Eventually there her behaviour deteriorated again so badly she tried to self harm, screaming at people, throwing things and once again asked to leave (my brother-in-law says she must be the only OAP with two ASBOs!). Anyway now she is on yet another mass of sedation but appears relatively normal in a home where the people have,well, quite challenging behaviours. Now she hates it, staff are being horrible to her,no one likes her, she wishes she was dead, family are ignoring her(we all phone daily and she has loads of visitors) but it's not enough. My sister and I have reached the end of our tethers - both of us have had awful issues all our lives as a result of how she has treated us - we have never been good enough. She's one seriously mixed up lady but at 87 what can we do?? My sister swings between guilt and depression over it and I get angry but every day she drags us down. Sorry to be so long winded but just had her on the phone for yet another half an hour and it's so tough. Now it's the night staff didn't give her her meds on purpose and all other rubbish but she won't let me say anything so we ended up having an argument! Goodness what a mess