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Post by laurac on Dec 10, 2012 1:03:45 GMT 1
only just caught up with this apologies, really hope you are back home and fully mended soonest, sounds very painful xx
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Post by Amanda Seater on Dec 10, 2012 7:46:39 GMT 1
Dm - I have to say that the surgeon suggested arnica - how cool is THAT!
Jan is fragile if I'm honest ( sorry Jan) and will be back on line as soon as her vision improves a bit more to see the written word.
As an aside IMHO - while it is indeed good to remain positive on the whole sometimes injured/sick people can be a bit too brave and need a little permission to feel a bit sorry for themselves. There is too much emphasis put on being brave all the time. Courage - yes but you are allowed to be human.
So to those of you who may be suffering - it is OK to let go, be self indulgent and desire sympathy- I consider it part of healing.After all it is other peoples empathy and sympathy that can help with healing.
Sorry to put that here but it seems pertinent.
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Post by laurac on Dec 10, 2012 8:33:26 GMT 1
Thinking of you Jan, take it easy and relax as much as you are able to x x
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Post by Dragonmaster on Dec 10, 2012 12:29:44 GMT 1
Dm - I have to say that the surgeon suggested arnica - how cool is THAT! Jan is fragile if I'm honest ( sorry Jan) and will be back on line as soon as her vision improves a bit more to see the written word. As an aside IMHO - while it is indeed good to remain positive on the whole sometimes injured/sick people can be a bit too brave and need a little permission to feel a bit sorry for themselves. There is too much emphasis put on being brave all the time. Courage - yes but you are allowed to be human. So to those of you who may be suffering - it is OK to let go, be self indulgent and desire sympathy- I consider it part of healing.After all it is other peoples empathy and sympathy that can help with healing. Sorry to put that here but it seems pertinent. Echo that. I had a nasty fall last year which did not result in obvious injury or hospitalisation, but I was really out of sorts for months, emotionally & physically. I found I really needed people to be aware that I was hurting, sore back & legs, couldn't walk far (as we went around Paris a few weeks later!!!) and prone to bursting into tears for no apparent reason. And I just couldn't do my usual "I'm OK, just get on with it" trick. But I did need to think that the pain was temporary and I would get better & ride again. That's where the positivity came in. And I took arnica. |
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Post by bertie666 on Dec 10, 2012 12:55:52 GMT 1
Glad to hear it went well - best wishes for a continued recovery = )
Amanda you make a really good point - I still feel pants months after the accident with Armana and the fencing. My neck is anything but right and have been written of by gps despite continuing neuro symptoms and excessive pain = (
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Post by mandal on Dec 10, 2012 14:08:30 GMT 1
As an aside IMHO - while it is indeed good to remain positive on the whole sometimes injured/sick people can be a bit too brave and need a little permission to feel a bit sorry for themselves. There is too much emphasis put on being brave all the time. Courage - yes but you are allowed to be human. So to those of you who may be suffering - it is OK to let go, be self indulgent and desire sympathy- I consider it part of healing.After all it is other peoples empathy and sympathy that can help with healing. Sorry to put that here but it seems pertinent. Great point. Imo there is a lot of good to be had from metaphorically licking your wounds sometimes. I also agree it is a part of healing and readjustment. Sending lots of strength and a snuggley (sp) duvet hug Jan. x |
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Post by janwilky on Dec 10, 2012 14:47:11 GMT 1
Thanks everyone for your lovely kind messages and healing thoughts. Amanda you're right, and I admit to feeling fragile and 'broken' today, not to mention my whole system feeling insulted by three days of drugs and hospital slop - yeuch  . But I'm so glad to be home, the sun is shining, and although I've got a long way to go to recover my strength I can feel my body fighting back. I'll feel a lot better when my vision is back to normal, it's still a little blurry and double at the edges, but getting better each day - I couldn't have done this yesterday. The surgery went well, it was even more complex than anticipated - the surgeon said my face was 'just a tonne of bones' and it was a real team effort deciding where all the fragments should go and what my face should look like, so we'll just have to hope they guessed right won't we ;D . My eye socket was completely shattered so they had to do a lot of repair work there too which has left me with a very sore eye, but I'm grateful to have my eyesight intact. Arrived home yesterday to the sight of Lucas and Coco waiting to greet me at the bottom field gate, and I was able to get out of the car and talk to them and stroke their lovely noses. They were both incredibly quiet and gentle with me, and Lucas just looked at me for ages. He seemed much more settled in himself than last time I saw him. I told them I was OK and that Amanda and Chris were going to come and take them on a lorry to the same place where they spent the summer, and there would be all the other horses and they'd be fine for a while but I'd come and visit as soon as I could. I try to speak to them in pictures when it's something really important, I have no idea how much they understand but it certainly felt like some kind of communication or understanding passed between us. It was lovely to share a bowl of soup with Amanda and Chris, and then it was time to load them. I was able to lead uber-safe Coco up the drive myself which felt wonderfully 'normal', then they both walked calmly and unhesitatingly up the steep ramp, settled to their haynets and off they went. Seeing them go was the first time I've cried since the accident, but it's the right thing to do as there's no way I can look after them at the moment and Ru needs to go back to work soon. I'm so grateful to Amanda for taking them, they couldn't be in better hands. I'm in very little pain and just need time to recover now. My jaw is wired together and the braces are giving me mouth ulcers and believe it or not that's the worst of it, so I'm very lucky. Ru is being fantastically supportive and feeding me well so I'm in good hands. And I'm taking arnica, thanks Dragonmaster ;D |
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Post by lizpurlo on Dec 10, 2012 14:53:24 GMT 1
Jan, so glad you're through the op and all has gone well. What a lovely post about Lucas - I'm sure he knows and understands what you have told him. All the very best for an easy and uneventful recovery from me. xx
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Post by cheekychops on Dec 10, 2012 22:53:58 GMT 1
Gosh Jan you are incredibly brave, and if it were me I'd be hiding in bed in a drug-induced haze for as long as possible.
Take it easy and hope you are on the mend soon.
xx
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Post by rosemaryhannah on Dec 10, 2012 23:09:16 GMT 1
Bloody hell Jan - I take my hat off to you.
They will understand. They read more than we think.
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Post by laurac on Dec 10, 2012 23:14:46 GMT 1
Gosh it all sounds so very very painful you are incredibly brave,
Your boy lucas is a lucky boy that youve spoken to him, i really think horses get very upset when we get hurt by them in accidents so youve put him at ease and I am sure he understands everything you tell him
Best of luck for a quick recovery to full health x
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Post by curlytobiano on Dec 11, 2012 22:41:28 GMT 1
Just caught up again. Sending you all best wishes Jan, what a brave girl you are - and it IS ok to feel sorry for yourself too. Pretty horrific to be told all the details of the op, even though wonderful that we have such gifted and dedicated surgeons in this country. My best advice is to imagine you are your own baby sister / best friend and treat yourself as you would treat them. + well done Amanda for being there to help  ((((Hugs))))) |
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Post by janwilky on Dec 12, 2012 11:10:58 GMT 1
Thank you I'm definitely on the mend now, though slowly realising it's going to be a gradual process and I'm not going to be fully repaired for a few months. My eye's still a bit blurry with some double vision at the edges, but the biggest inconvenience is having my jaw wired as the braces are giving me horrid mouth ulcers and make it very hard to eat. Small price to pay for being alive and having my sight intact though . But the fractures themselves are not painful, partly because there's some nerve damage so my face still feels anaesthetised. It might take a few months to get the feeling back, apparently, but by then the fractures will have healed. Thanks for all your encouragement and support everyone ;D |
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Post by troop on Dec 12, 2012 18:02:02 GMT 1
Glad you are on the mend jan xxx
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Post by Beth&Rosie on Dec 12, 2012 23:10:15 GMT 1
Wow! That's one big accident! Thinking of you! You could try and get hold of some wax to go on the braces couldn't you? The sort that orthodontists give you when you have braces on. When I first had mine on I had the same thing with mouth ulcers, but of you cover the ouchy bits with brace wax it really helps! You have to push it on really hard though, or it will fall of and you end up with a mouth full of wax!  |
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. But I'm so glad to be home, the sun is shining, and although I've got a long way to go to recover my strength I can feel my body fighting back. I'll feel a lot better when my vision is back to normal, it's still a little blurry and double at the edges, but getting better each day - I couldn't have done this yesterday.
