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Post by jackiedo on Dec 28, 2009 16:41:23 GMT 1
Sorry I deleted my account. I am asking for understanding here, it really upset me about the ponies in Wales, more than I expected. Caroline made an appeal for homes, which I wholeheartedly supported, but it developed into a "traditional way of life" thread. At the moment, I have one 25 year old Arab, a 24 year old Thoroughbred and an 18 year old thouroughbred. The 24 YO TB has recurrant episodes of Choke, that are so distressing to see... The other TB is lame, but this is compounded by the fact that she was neglected for the last 2 years, and had abcesses that were untreated, in a foot that needed to take the weight ffor an old racing injury.. and, my arab, who was my daughter's pony, has been diagnosed with tumour in her eye... I cannot bear the fact that I may lose at least two of my girls when I have tried so hard to save them... I see them gallop up in full pelt every morning for their breakfasts... I don't know, how can people cast aside what they created?... anyhow.. this is me bearing my soul. Any advice would be welcome....
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Post by K8 on Dec 28, 2009 16:54:40 GMT 1
Afraid i can't offer any advice other than you know your horses and i have no doubt you will do whats best for them. I did want to say that i am pleased your back!! :0)
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Post by Deleted on Dec 28, 2009 17:02:34 GMT 1
jackie sadly we cant' save them all, but what we can do is do everything we can to provide the horses that cross our paths a good life. don't take on board the ones you can't save
good to see you back xx
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Post by jackiedo on Dec 28, 2009 17:04:53 GMT 1
But they are my ladies, and I promised them I would love them forever, and they would never have to worry about anything, ever again
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Post by Catrin on Dec 28, 2009 17:05:34 GMT 1
As you probably know by now, all the ponies were found homes within the timescale set down by the Welsh Office.
I am sorry that you have three potentially poorly horses, but be reassured that as long as we work with their best interests at heart, they can have happy and stress free lives, even if we can't, trying to look after them. Whatever we do, we can only do our best. Take comfort in the good memories and the things that you and they still enjoy. It is definitely one of those 'one day at a time' situations.
There are several people on here who manage to keep completely blind horses. It does of course depend on your circumstances and the environment you can provide, but it certainly can be done. Abcesses will clear up, they sometimes take a long time, but I have seen several horses troubled with them for two or three years, as their feet recover, then they never get them again. If you can control the food and eating arrangements for the TB who gets choke, then this is something that you can manage. Don't worry when it's going to happen again, just focus on how to stop it happening. Think of all the positives and once you are sure you have a procedure to deal with a negative, put them out of your mind. They aren't happening now, so you don't need to think about them. If they ever occur in the future, you know what you will do, so just focus on how you and your horses enjoy your time together, everything negative has no place in that plan.
If you wish, I'll send them healing to help the problems.
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Post by mandal on Dec 28, 2009 17:08:45 GMT 1
(((hugs))) Jackie. I've no advice I'm afraid really but a break does us good from time to time. Things build up and up and we can be strongly affected by something seemingly out of the blue. From where I'm sitting, you're a very caring and thoughtful human trying to do the best you can.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 28, 2009 17:11:16 GMT 1
Jackie, sometimes love is letting them go when the time is right. I'm sure you will do the right thing by them whatever the outcome is.
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Post by jackiedo on Dec 28, 2009 17:17:52 GMT 1
Catrin, MY TB mare with the abcesses is something special.. She was struck into from behind as a racehorse, She was bred in the velvet, as they say, and was loved and in a very good home, has bred foals who have earned quite a sum. However. The lady who owned her had to part with her, and I recommended the hoem, and at that time, it was a good homwe, but the girl who had her seperated rom her husband and got divorced (every mother's worst nightmare) and hit the bottle big style. She neglected herself, and her horses. I took this mare on, and she has prodjeny still winning. Help... my black beauty, a middleweeight 16hh thoroughbred mare....
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Post by sandy on Dec 28, 2009 17:27:44 GMT 1
Can't offer any advice but can only echo runningloons post that if you can provide the best for the horses that are part of your life and give them the best life possible - then there is little more you can do except , when the end is nigh, love them enough to let them go without suffering. Thinking of you and your ladies. Glad you're back. xx
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Post by specialsparkle3 on Dec 28, 2009 17:32:01 GMT 1
Jackie it isalways at this time of year that everything looks at it's worst, be it physical, financial or most especially emotional. Your girls may well come right with your loving care, but if they don't you have kept you promise to love them for ever. They are NOT worried , they have food and you, and you can help them to be comfortable, and when their time comes and they are no longer comfortable, they will still have you right to the end. That's all they will ever want. Be brave, most of us have been there and out the other side, and we are all here for you. Don't go leaving again xxx
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Post by Furiey on Dec 28, 2009 17:38:14 GMT 1
Sometimes it gets too much for us jackie. When we care so much we always feel that we should be doing more even when we do more than many would. It's hard to accept that we can't make everything right, that there is no magic wand that we can wave to make everything perfect. All we can do is the best we can, and not let the feeling that it is not enough overwhelm us or we will be unable to continue to help as we can in the future. Be happy with what you have done for your horses now and be prepared to make the best decision for them rather than for you when the time comes, you know it will come but don't dwell on it now. It's never easy and I don't find that it gets easier as I get older, but I can't stop caring. Best wishes to you and your horses.
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Post by jaxnbreeze on Dec 28, 2009 17:58:15 GMT 1
Jackie - I have pm'd you. Jacquie
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Post by wabuska on Dec 28, 2009 18:13:32 GMT 1
I would say they never do have to worry about anything ever again. They are in a safe harbour with you whatever happens. Sending you support and every good wish. Kya.
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Post by Lorraine L on Dec 28, 2009 18:35:27 GMT 1
Hey Jackie Firstly, its lovely to see you back. In my case with Sunny, its very much ' one day at a time ' with his future. When you give everything you have, whether that be, money, time, love etc then you have done what you promised your horses. I cannot even think about ever losing my boys but if decisions had to be made, it would be about them every time and my feelings / heartbreak would be something which i would rely on my friends and family for. Everyone here knows how you feel if they were to be in your shoes and at some point, we all will be. You are a special lady to take on and care for these horses whether that be for one day, one month or several years. You make a difference to their lives xx
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Post by Liz on Dec 28, 2009 18:59:15 GMT 1
Jackie - I echo what others have said. It's nice to see you back here and I am confident that you'll do right by your horses and if that means letting them go then I'm equally sure you'll see to that when the time is right. It's hard and something all long term horse owners have faced. It never gets easier and the only comfort is that you were as responsible an owner as it is possible to be. Focus on the positive and deal with the negative only when you have to.
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